14+ Lovemaking Tips To Make Your Partner Ask For More

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Reading up on some lovemaking tips can help you figure out the differences between having sex and being deeply intimate. While you could quickly get naked for the satisfaction of your sexual urges, lovemaking is different. The latter is more elaborate and intense and could begin before you’re in the private space. The effect lasts for much longer after the actual act has ended. Also, lovemaking involves gaining your partner’s trust and exposing your vulnerability to them.

From how you build the moment during foreplay to what happens during the actual act of lovemaking, there is a lot to learn and understand to make it truly meaningful. If you are searching for the best ways to please your lover and take them on a wild ride, explore these lovemaking tips designed to deepen intimacy and enhance your relationship.

Foreplay Does Matter

The art of making love is not just restricted to having sex. Foreplay can be more pleasurable than the actual act itself, especially for women. Foreplay is when your creativity comes to the fore. It is a way of getting your partner ready for what is to come, and to build upon the anticipation. It is also a way for your partner’s body to prepare itself and start the natural process of lubrication, which will make sex more pleasurable and less painful.

Making love is not just about a physical connection. You may be having some amazing time of sensuality in bed, but if you want to take it beyond, the secret could be in connecting emotionally with your partner.

How To Please Your Man And Make Him Yearn For You

Each man differs in his tastes and choices, but there are some aspects which are commonly enjoyed by a majority of men, in a physical bonding. Here are some of the things you can try out during your intimate moments with him to make sure he can’t have enough of you:

1. Know how to arouse yourself

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• While you may think it is only your man’s job to turn you on, most guys do get turned on when they see their partners in a state of arousal, even before they have done anything.

• As a woman, you may need time to get aroused and come into the mood. Your man will surely be there to get your body ready. But he will also love it if you took the initiative and did something to arouse yourself.

• If you find it difficult to get aroused initially, close your eyes and fantasize. Think of all those things you want your man to do and imagine he is doing it to you right now and what it is doing to your body. Try and feel those sensations in your mind and imagine the way your body will react.

• You do not need to tell your man about everything you were imagining and how you got aroused, but make sure your partner can see the way your body is behaving and how it pleases you.

2. Let the act be fun

• The word sex often brings to mind only the act and the end pleasure. While you may fantasize a lot about the act, in practice it could be something different. Sex does not always have to be smooth as it is possible that both you and your man try out certain positions that do not work out. You may feel uncomfortable or irritable.

• However, do not brood over such failed attempts, as it would impact your mood and disappoint your partner. Instead of focusing on what went wrong and why it could not be better, just use that moment to laugh out loud and ease the tension.

• Your man will love you for not making him look like a failure in bed, and it may also boost his sexual performance.

3. Give him some visual treat

• There are many ways to treat your partner to a visual extravaganza, but it should depend on what you are comfortable doing. Men love watching their partners in action, and it will give them a high to women getting stimulated because of them.

• Visual stimulation is a powerful medium to get your man aroused and bring him into the mood. If you let him enjoy more of that, he will never stop coming back to you, asking for more.

• The key to this technique is to make sure that you enjoy yourself, because only when you are aroused and are reaching that final point, you can reflect that on your face. It will also give your partner a kick.

• Lie down and start playing with yourself, but have eye contact with your partner. Looking at him, you can show that you are enjoying it and also check his reactions to your moves. Move your body, make some noises and help yourself reach a climax. If you do not want to go all the way on your own, show your man when he should join you and help you reach there.

Quick tip

Being open to communication is one of the most romantic pieces of advice you can follow if you want to enhance your physical chemistry factor.

4. Stroke and fondle him

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• Men love it when their partners make good use of their hands and stroke their little one. Fondle and stroke him and while being gentle, show his manhood some firmness and authority.

• You can also use a lubricant, such as massage oil, or those specifically meant for sexual pleasure.

• Rub your palms with the lubricant and place one of your hands on the base of his penis. Use your other hand to move from the bottom to the top of his penis. Make a gentle yet firm massage motion in circular and twisting strokes.

• Stroke the head of his penis with the flat of your palm and go back down again, then back up. If you are comfortable, you can go down to him at the same time and give him a mix of both the hand and oral sensation.

5. Use some ties

• Tie up your man to show him you have control, something he will love and get excited about. Of course, we don’t mean that you tie him up in such a way that he finds it difficult to relax or that it leaves marks on him.

• Use comfortable, sensual and silky ties, such as his tie, your scarf and such to tie him loosely to the bedpost. Put a pillow below his head to keep him propped up so that he can see what all you are doing to him.

• Remember that the idea to tie him up is to keep him in place while you do your things on him. It does not have to be too tight, but more of a symbolic thing, so tell your man that he is not allowed to move at all, until and unless you tell him to do so.

• To make it more fun, you can give him a punishment each time he disobeys. If he tries to get up and use his hands, give him a spank and put him back in place.

6. Make it wet

• Your man will love the sensation of water on his aroused body, so it is a great idea to get him started while you both are in the shower together.

• Open the shower and kiss him full on the mouth as the water cascades over your bodies. To make it even more intimate, put your arms around his head and slowly rise on your toes as you kiss him. You can close your eyes or open them slowly as you fade the kiss out.

• Work up a nice lather and soap him up. Better still, do it for each other. Ask your partner to soap you up even as you start lathering him all over. Show him where you want him to apply the soap.

• Remember to kiss him in between the soapy session to show him how much you love him and are attracted to him.

7. Dress naughty

• Your man will want you more if you can master this art. There is nothing more sensuous and a quicker way to arousal than seeing his partner dressed up in naughty clothes around him.

• Wear some lacy or kinky underwear and walk around the house casually, without making it look like you are making too much effort.

• You can choose to wear a loose and oversized plain white shirt on top and leave the buttons open.

• If you want to take it to the next level and are comfortable, you can also do away with your innerwear and switch to the next mode. Revel in your skin and wear just that around the house, along with a pair of sexy high heels or boots.

8. Talk dirty to him

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• He will love it! You may feel that he will think low of you if you talk dirty, but the truth is, it will turn him on no end.

• When we say naughty, we do not mean abusing him or speaking in a way that will tell him you’ve just spent some time down in the gutter.

• Instead, use your best husky voice (but avoid it if you have never tried it out before and are not sure how it will sound) and tell him all those things you want him to do to you. You can also start teasing him right away by telling him all the things you want to do to him.

• Take some control and use a few abusive words which are not offensive and which will give a hint of power and dominance to whatever you say.

How To Make Your Woman Happy And Make Her Ask For More

Here are some of the things you can try out in your intimate moments with your woman to make sure she can never have enough of you:

1. Set up the mood

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• If no one ever told you this yet, the truth is, your woman will love you more and enjoy herself more between the sheets if you set up the mood for her.

• Depending on what your woman likes and how she likes to be pleased, create the perfect ambiance for her. You can make the lights dim and light up a few scented candles around the house.

• Fill up the bathtub and add some sensuous bath salts and a few rose petals in the water. Make sure the water is nice and warm and help your woman step in the tub with you. Sit with her, look her in the eye, tell her how beautiful she is and lean in to kiss her.

• To make the setting perfect, remember to add some music in the background, not too loud but yet something that she will be able to hear and enjoy.

Another essential tip when setting the mood is to know the timing. You should know the time your woman would like to be playful. Talking about the same, Joanna Goddard, a wife, mother, and editor, says, “I always prefer the morning or the afternoon. The least sexy time for me is at the end of the day, after a big pasta dinner and two glasses of wine, when I just feel like watching The Bachelor and putting on hiking socks (i).

So, ensure you are not making any plans when your partner doesn’t want to indulge in lovemaking.

2. Play with her clothes

• Many men rip off the clothes of a woman and take her to bed instantly. If you are one of those people who feel this is the best way to please your woman, think again.

• There is a lot of exploration that you can do with the clothes that your woman is wearing. Instead of just removing them all out or forcing her out of her clothes, turn that act of removing clothes into an act of sensual pleasure for her.

• When you start taking off her clothes, make it slow and enticing. You can always use the time to build up her mood and give her a taste of what is to come. Your fingers should slowly brush her skin, and your lips should give her those pecks around the intimates, as she expects more of such acts while having sex.

• Play along with whatever she is wearing by taking out some of her clothes and leaving some on. If she is wearing a shirt and a bra underneath, slowly take off her shirt but keep the bra on. You can also use your teeth to open the buttons, and maybe give her a little bite around her stomach and nipples as you open her shirt. If you want to take off her bra, start by touching her over her bra and slowly and gently massage her nipples till you can feel them turning hard. Once you know she has turned on you can move over to removing the bra completely.

• Ease her out of her lower dress and leave the panty on. You can slowly tongue her from over the panty till you can hear her moaning and writhing with pleasure. You can continue using your tongue on her panty until she starts to get wet when you can move on to more foreplay, as we share in the point below.

Quick tip

Identify your love language and don’t keep the orgasm or finish line as the sole target. Enjoy every minute!

3. Please her with foreplay

• There is a reason that the word foreplay is involved with pleasing a woman.

• While a man will love to jump in and do it, a woman likes to enjoy the time she uses in foreplay with patience. It will not only help to set her mood but will also prepare her body for sex, by lubricating itself and making her wet. As a result, she will feel less pain during intercourse and it will be more pleasurable for her when you finally do it.

• Remember that foreplay does not involve groping her too tightly or roughening her up. If that is something that both you and your woman enjoy, you can save it for the later part.

• For foreplay, try giving her a sensual massage, tease her by stroking her breasts and massaging her nipples and hips. You can also touch her on her lady parts down there in between the massage to help her get wet and get ready for intercourse.

4. Go down on your woman

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• Your partner may not always say it out loud, but once you go down on her the right way, she will enjoy it and want more and more of it.

• Make sure that you first try some foreplay on your woman and then give her the oral time. You should start slow and make use of both the tongue and the fingers.

• Your woman may like different things while you go down on her, so keep experimenting and seeing what makes her feel good.

5. Tease her into sex

• Want to spice up your relationship? Try some teasing. Instead of jumping into the act right away, tease her into the job so that she can enjoy it.

• Do not leave any gap between the time that you give her oral sex and the time that you start having intercourse.

• Once you start having sex, make sure you do not get rough and dirty immediately or go from start to finish immediately. Instead, keep it slow and prolong the act.

• After oral sex, she is almost at the point where she is ready to climax, start having sex but be slow. Once she gets in the mood, stop, and then start again. Keep repeating the same over and over again till she goes crazy and asks you for more and immediate sex.

6. Take control

• Women love when their partners take control, and it is a great way to turn on her. By being dominant, we do not mean that you forget what she wants and instead only do what you want.

• Instead, make sure that you keep her pleasures in mind and yet show her that you are taking control of her. Hold her firmly in your arms and turn her around as and when you want to play with whichever part of her body. Though you are firm and strong in your hold of her, do not hurt her in any way.

• While you take control, talk to her and give her instructions about what she should and should not do while you are the controlling one. For instance, you can keep telling her to moan louder as you can see her reaching her climax.

7. Pamper her

• Pampering your partner before lovemaking involves creating a sensual and comfortable atmosphere.

• Begin with a gentle and intimate massage. Use scented oils, play soft music, and focus on areas that promote relaxation. This helps build anticipation and physical connection.

• Set the mood with a thoughtfully arranged environment. Dim the lights, use candles, and choose comfortable and luxurious bedding to create a sensual ambiance.

• Communicate your desire through verbal and non-verbal expressions of affection. Compliment her, whisper sweet nothings, and let her know how much she means to you.

• Tailor your approach to her preferences. Pay attention to what she enjoys and incorporate elements to suit her unique desires and fantasies.

• Remember, consent and communication are crucial. Prioritize your partner’s comfort and desires, and be attentive to her responses.

The Importance Of Communication In Lovemaking

Effective communication and emotional closeness are essential for a fulfilling lovemaking experience or physical connection. Discussing desires, preferences, and boundaries with your partner is part of enhancing trust and intimacy.

Studies show that integrating sexual communication components can help the partners feel more comfortable exploring and enjoying their sexuality and contribute to higher levels of relational satisfaction (1) (2). Sexual communication includes discussions about what one wants from the relationship, preferred safe sex supplies the partner likes using, and matters related to STIs and other sexual health issues.

While initiating these conversations might feel awkward, using the tips given above and openly sharing what excites you can help build emotional intimacy and ensure you both feel comfortable and connected, not just during lovemaking but throughout the entire relationship.

Infographic: Love-Making Tips For Women

Romantic, intimate moments and lovemaking are essential elements of a healthy and fulfilling relationship. So, if you are looking for tips to attract your man and spice up things to add fun and excitement to your relationship, scroll through the infographic below.

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