15 Characteristics Of A Sigma Male

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You may have heard of the term Sigma male but wonder about its meaning. When psychological archetypes are discussed, they are usually termed in a binary way, for instance, as Type “A” or “B” or as people of “extrovert” or “introverted” nature.

However, men are often categorized into Alpha (known to be dominant) or Beta (mostly of submissive nature) males when speaking about male psychology. In recent times, a revelation has steadily come to light that some males could fall in the middle of these two classifications (Alpha and Beta) and are supposedly called Sigma males.

This post brings you all you might want to know about the characteristics of a Sigma male.

What Is A Sigma Male?

In simple terms, men who fall under the category of “Sigma” exist outside the Alpha and Beta binary classification. They’re characterized as being highly independent and original with little or no regard for societal perceptions.

To this effect, they will often break stereotypes, not conform to expectations, and generally pave a path for themselves that exists outside of what society expects of men. While Sigma boys and men were thought of as exceptions or rare compared to Alpha and Beta men, there has been an increase in Sigma male mentality in recent years. It likely has to do with the social media trend as it opens ways of expression on the internet.

Etymology And Origins Of The Term ‘Sigma Male’

The term ‘Sigma male’ was coined by the conservative writer Theodore Robert Beale, better known as Vox Day, in 2010. It is derived from the 18th letter of the Greek alphabet—sigma—and assigned to males that rank thus in the masculine hierarchy. It is often believed that Sigma males are among the rarest type of men. They are usually self-contained, and therefore, they do not pose a threat to the more-dominant Alpha men, nor do they take over the quiet Beta men.

Characteristics Of A Sigma Male

Here are some characteristics of a man who falls into the category of Sigma. 

1. They tend to be loners

It should not be confused with Sigma males disliking social company. Instead, it means they prefer a solitary lifestyle and are more of a recluse. They do not often need people to have a good time. On the flip side, they can also be pleasant and friendly with the people they like.

Jerome, a self-proclaimed sigma male and lifestyle blogger, writes about balancing social connections and solitude in his blog Dapper and Groomed. He says, “While I cherish my moments of solitude and introspection, there’s a part of me that longs for genuine friendships, for those casual coffee catch-ups or shared meals that seem so effortless for many. It’s not that I shy away from social interactions; rather, I find it challenging to strike the right balance between my need for solitude and my desire for meaningful connections (i).”

2. They are flexible

While Alpha or Beta males are more rigid when it comes to the personalities and environments they prefer to be in, Sigma males are nonconformists and can adapt to most circumstances. They can perform well under different social situations, team compositions, and even outside the comfort zones.

In both their personal life and work life, Sigma males use their flexibility to handle different situations while staying independent. At work, they can switch between leading a team or working alone, depending on what is needed. Socially, they can mix with various groups but still stay true to themselves. This ability to adapt helps them succeed in changing circumstances without needing to fit in or give up their values.

3. They are themselves – regardless of who is watching

While others may tend to be around other people or show a particular face to society, Sigma personality type males tend to be themselves regardless of who is around. They will be more or less the same person when alone as they are around other people, making it a remarkable attribute.

4. They can lead without exerting authority

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When we think of a leader, we tend to think of an Alpha male. However, Sigma males also make for excellent leaders, albeit with a different leadership style. They prefer to lead by example or mutual communication rather than establishing their dominance or authority. Sigmas will get what needs to be accomplished with a balanced approach to leadership.

5. They are good listeners

Sigma males tend to be good listeners as they understand the value of silence and respect when others speak as a matter of mutual courtesy.

They give importance to content rather than the volume and thus listen well and speak when required.

6. They are self-aware

While this can be true about Beta males, it often manifests due to insecurity. When we say Sigma males are self-aware, it works both ways— they know their good qualities and also their flaws. Self-awareness helps them self-correct when they go wrong, and they do not repeat mistakes.

7. They have an ambiguous morality

Sigma males tend to see right and wrong in complex scenarios. In this regard, they may harbor a sympathetic attitude towards certain people other than judging them outright. It also makes them critical thinkers who analyze all aspects of the issue before passing judgment on it.

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Sigma males know what they want and will never settle for less. They are focused and work hard to achieve their goals.

8. They have rusty social skills

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Sigma males can come off as a little abrasiveⁱBehavior that is harsh, irritable, or caustic. or uninterested since they rarely have emotional reactions and are direct while communicating. While some may see this as rude, it’s a consequence of them being good listeners. They do not disguise their intent with flowery language or flattery.

9. They can fit into friend groups but do not rely on them

Sigma males are flexible, making it easy for them to fit into different social groups and get along with people

. However, it does not mean they are dependent on social groups or friends. They are content and happy on their own and stay the same, irrespective of their social circle.

10. They decide their future

While Alphas thrive in a high-functioning environment and Betas do well in a passive, low-stress environment, Sigma males are free spirits and succeed or fail on their terms. They are characterized by their autonomous nature, preferring to operate independently and make decisions based on their own judgments rather than seeking approval or guidance from others. They know they are responsible for their fates and aren’t as bound by their society or environment. They hold themselves accountable for their actions and consequences.

11. They tend to have small but close social circles

Sigma males don’t feel the need to have big friend circles or impress crowds of people. Instead, they prefer to have a closer circle of friends they can trust and share the same wavelength. It may come off as anti-social but is not.

12. They are self-sufficient

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Sigma males value independence more than anything and will do their best to be completely self-sufficient in all aspects of life. They prefer to be self-reliant and do not want to rely on anyone for the basics in life and build their competencies to lead an independent existence.

13. They aren’t afraid to take risks

Sigmas rarely take the beaten path and do not deviate from established career and life paths. They dislike social structures and cages and like to break out and do their own thing. Such a trait often puts them in sharp contrast to a beta male. Also, sigma males accept the risks associated with such a decision.

14. They aren’t attention-seekers

Sigma males don’t seek attention or validation from others. When they do get it, they don’t live for it or thrive on it. They tend to gel into the background and listen and observe rather than be the center of attention.

15. They have the potential to be an Alpha

With their social adaptability and flexibility, a Sigma man can also be an Alpha male. Sigma males’ leadership skills and independence play to their strengths and comfort zones.

Trivia

The term “Sigma male” was introduced by writer Theodore Robert Beale, who used it in his blogs to explain the hierarchy of males.

Criticism And Misconceptions About Sigma Males

Some have criticized the Sigma male concept for oversimplifying personality types. One prevalent myth about Sigma males is that they are emotionally cold or antisocial, but in actuality, they value close, meaningful relationships and would rather hang out in smaller groups. Another criticism of the concept is that it glorifies solitude and implies disregarding social structures is preferable. As some may mistake independence for a lack of emotional vulnerability or connection, it can undervalue the significance of community and emotional health.

Sigma Male Vs. Alpha Male

Ever since the archetypeⁱA typical example of a person or thing. of Sigma males started to gain popularity, people want to know ‘What makes a sigma male so different from an alpha male?’ We’ll try to dive into some of the main differences here.

1. The value of silence

Alpha males need a specific environment to function. They like to speak and want to be heard. They are active for the audience and are at their best when people are watching. In short, they are “loud” personalities and wish to remain the same.

Sigma males are the opposite in every way. They respect silence and appreciate a quiet environment. They can perform better without an audience and rarely do things for public acknowledgment.

2. Flexibility and dominance

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Alpha males have a compulsive need to compete and dominate their current environment. So, in the workplace, they tend to be competitive and ambitious. They do not perform well in groups where they are not the leader or center of attention.

Sigma males don’t care about dominance or hierarchy. They would operate outside known structures and hierarchies to get the best possible results. Their outlook towards people is based more on their value set, and they do not see others as competition or threats. They are also more flexible and do not mind working as a team or in a subordinate position as long as they like the job.

3. Social validation

Alphas are often seen as dominant and leaders but in their established social hierarchy. They have to see what the game is, play it, and win it to become “Alphas.” These men derive their entire sense of self-worth and respect from their position of dominance over others.

Sigma males differ as social validation and hierarchy mean little or nothing to them. They do not want to be part of any social games or power plays. They are also least concerned with how others view them and instead derive their self-worth and respect from their values.

4. Need to belong

An Alpha is only an Alpha if he is at the head of the pack. Thus, they need a social construct that they can lead or dominate to define themselves. It constrains them to specific behavioral patterns and social circles.

A Sigma male doesn’t require any of this to be himself and is fine in a social hierarchy where he isn’t ranked high. Indeed, he can even function as a loner, not relying on anyone at all. It allows such men greater social freedom.

5. Humility

Since an Alpha male’s self-worth is closely tied to society’s perception, they have an innate need to showcase their personality and achievements.

They talk or brag about themselves and reinforce to the rest of the “pack” that they are the Alpha males.

Sigma males differ in this regard as well. Their focus lies more on the job itself than the societal standards, a characteristic they share with an omega male. They will do the job to the best of their ability and not care for praise or public opinion. Their need for appreciation ends with them being seen as people who can do a good job.

6. Perception

Alpha men are characterized as aggressive, opinionated, competitive, and constantly active. People usually see an Alpha as someone who craves attention and lives for social validation.

Sigma males are harder to read for most people. Indeed, most people might not even know what the term means since mainstream psychology has bracketed men into Alpha vs Beta for so long. Once people know someone with Sigma characteristics, they are seen as independent thinkers, lone wolves (as opposed to being in an Alpha’s “pack”), disassociated from a lot of social conventions, and good listeners.

Cultural Representations Of Sigma Males And Alpha Males

In popular culture, Sigma males are usually represented as quiet types. They are usually lone wolves and portrayed as mysterious characters. Thomas Shelby from Peaky Blinders and Patrick Bateman from American Psycho are prime examples of Sigma males in popular culture.

In contrast, Alpha males are those who are dominant and come across as confident talkers. They are usually leaders of groups and make plans and decisions. Danny Ocean from the Ocean’s series and Maverick from Top Gun are good examples of Alpha males.

Practical Implications Of Being A Sigma Male

Your approach to dating and social interactions changes when you identify as a Sigma man. What this means for you and some advice are as follows:

1. Dating: When dating, sigma men typically seek out more meaningful, in-depth partnerships. Look for companions who share your values and recognize your need for independence. Admit your need for space and desire for a harmonious relationship.
2. Social interactions: Sigma males may favor more intimate and smaller groups. Establish firm boundaries, but make an effort to interact with individuals who value your uniqueness.
3. Self-awareness: Value your individuality and sense of style. Instead of conforming to stereotypes or expectations, build sincere relationships that meet your needs.

Gaining an understanding of these ideas will enable you to build meaningful relationships while remaining authentic.

Infographic: Identifying A Sigma Male

Sigmas can come across as intriguing and mysterious, but how do you identify them in the real world? Check out this infographic, which provides the most notable Sigma male traits at a glance, making it easier for you to spot one.

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