27 Definite Signs Your Ex Will Eventually Come Back To You

Know the signs and see if it could lead to something positive.

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After a rough patch, you and your partner moved apart to reconsider your relationship. However, you still have feelings for them and want them to return, or you realize you made a mistake and want a second chance. You may look for signs your ex will eventually come back in such a case. Well, the road to reuniting with your ex may not be easy. To break through the outer shell and rekindle their love for you, you’ll need maturity, patience, perseverance, and sincere love. Many people experience regret, nostalgia, and confusion, which often blur their judgment about whether to reach out or move on. Recognizing these emotions can help guide your decisions moving forward. If you’re ready for the challenge, this post explains some signs that may show that your ex will come back at some point.

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Key Pointers

  • If your ex has not started seeing anyone and talks to you often, it is a sign they will come back into your life.
  • Waiting for your ex to come back and not moving forward despite a toxic relationship is unacceptable.
  • It is important to put yourself and your well-being first before getting back with your ex.

27 Signs Your Ex Will Eventually Come Back

Having feelings for your ex after a breakup is normal, but you shouldn’t make decisions about reunion in haste. Always give yourself and your ex enough time to think. If you know it is worth it, here are some signs your ex will eventually come back. We present signs both from your and your partner’s perspective.

They keep communication open

Even after a breakup, if they put in the effort to maintain contact with you, it might suggest they are not ready to let go. They might still have feelings for you and may be hoping for a reunion. Look out for these signs.

  1. They have not blocked your number. A promising sign of hope that your ex will eventually come back is that they have not yet blocked your number. This could mean that they want to keep the window of conversation open.
  2. They pick up your calls. Initially, they might have ignored your calls, but now they answer them. Though they might not talk to you like before, receiving your calls is a sign that they are still interested in what you have to say.
  3. They text you. They might make it look like they accidentally texted you. But, if you start a conversation, they will continue it and share their feelings. They may also keep the thread open by sending good morning and good night texts.
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If you want your ex to stop texting you without blocking them, convey your needs by drawing a boundary.
  1. They check your social media account. If you sense your ex is stalking your social media accounts, it could be a sign that they want to know what is happening in your life. This could also be them hinting that they are thinking about you.
  2. They drunk-text or call you. Many times, pride might stop your ex from confessing their feelings for you. But if you get a call or text from them when they are drunk, then whatever they spoke would be coming straight from their heart. If they say they miss you, it could be a sign that they will eventually make up their mind and come back.
  3. They are on friendly terms with your family. If your ex still talks and visits your family like before, it could mean they are not over you and looking to get back.
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Their actions show they are not over you

If your ex still holds on to reminders of your relationship, they might still be attached to you. Look out for the following signs since actions often speak louder than words.

  1. They didn’t start seeing anyone. This is a tricky sign to evaluate. If your ex is still single and is not looking to get into any relationship, it could mean they are taking their time to get into a relationship or still thinking of you. Carefully evaluate the situation before coming to an assumption.
  2. They haven’t returned your things. It could be your favorite T-shirt or your gift on their birthday; if your ex has not returned any of your things, it could either mean they are too attached to them to let go or think of getting back with you. Both these signs are positive and show that your ex might eventually get back.
  3. They attend events where you go. If your ex has attended an event knowing you will be there, it could suggest their willingness to reconnect with you. If they show up alone, take your chance to open a conversation with them.
  4. They become nostalgic. If your ex constantly reminds you of all the good times you spent together, it could mean they are missing you and rethinking the breakup to reunite with you. When people feel nostalgic, they tend to fondly reminisce about the old memories and yearn for the spark and romance of the previous relationship (1).
  5. They make sure you do not forget them. Just when you have decided to forget this relationship and move on, your ex would do something that ignites the feelings inside you. Impromptu meetings and out-of-the-blue messages indicate that they want to sustain your interest in them so that they can get back to you.
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Breakups without closure are hard on the couple and everyone around them. So be kind and avoid giving backlashing responses to (or about) your ex, especially after they have entered a new relationship.

They regret the breakup

Breakups are quite emotional, and sometimes, people may realize they made a mistake. If your ex expresses regret and communicates it to people around them, they might want you back.

  1. They admit that they are unhappy after the breakup. You find out through common friends that your ex is unhappy and that they think letting you go is a bad decision. It could be a sign that they will eventually come back.
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  1. Their parents call you to tell you how miserable they are. If you are on good terms with your ex’s parents, you might get a call from them telling you how much they miss you or how miserable they have been after you’ve left. This could signify that your ex is unhappy about the breakup, and their parents want to mend the situation.
  2. They opened up to their close friends. You are on good terms with their best friend, and they tell you that your ex has opened up about still having feelings for you. It is a clear sign that they might eventually want to reconcile with you.
  3. They are curious to know about you. After breaking up, if your ex tries to know about your love life and whether you are dating anyone, it could be a sign that they have feelings for you.
  4. They are insecure. When the decision to breakup is made at the spur of the moment, your ex might regret it. One strong sign of such regret is insecurity. If your ex constantly asks their peers for assurance or hints that the decision was a hasty one, they might come back.
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  1. They think the break up was a mistake. When there are no major mishaps such as ill-treatment or cheating, and you and your ex have broken up on good terms, there is a good chance that the relationship has not become irreparable. The feelings between you both are very much alive, and your ex might still have a soft corner for you.

They try to reconnect

When someone truly wants a chance at reconnecting with you, they will show it through their effort. If they show the following signs, they might want to rekindle the relationship and mend past mistakes.

  1. They want to hang out with you. If your ex asks you out on the weekend, it indicates they are longing for your company and want to rekindle the relationship.
  2. They bump into you too often. It could be near your office or your favorite coffee shop; if you spot your ex often, it may not be a coincidence. They might be coming intentionally to see you or talk to you. Perhaps they seek to rebuild what you two had.
  3. They ask you how they can make it up to you. After two or three meetings, if your ex has brought up the break up in the conversation and asked you how they could make up for past mistakes, that is a strong sign that they want to get back with you.
  4. They come to help you. No matter how bitter the breakup, if your ex comes to your aid whenever you are in trouble or need help, it could mean they still care for you and might eventually come back.
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  1. They do things you like. When you were together, did their habit of being late for dates annoy you? If they have become punctual now, it shows that they have changed and want you to notice it.
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Express appreciation for the changes you notice in your ex. Do so without directing words of contempt or sarcasm about their past behavior.
  1. They treat you well. In your time together, you will notice that they have become more receptive and affectionate towards you. They may do everything to make you happy. If you broke up due to a lack of attention from them, they may do everything possible to pay attention to you, to prove that they are good for you.

They test the waters for a reunion

Sometimes, an ex might drop hints about a reconciliation instead of saying it outright to gauge your reaction. The following subtle signs might suggest they are testing the waters before making the big move.

  1.  They discuss future plans and goals with you. During the time they spend with you, if your ex discusses their life goals and future plans, it is a sign that they still value your opinion and want to get back with you.
  2.  They remember important dates. Despite your breakup, your ex wishes you on your birthday, greets you on Valentine’s Day, and may even drop a message on your relationship anniversary. It indicates that you are very much in their heart, and they may soon rekindle their bond with you.
  3. They lie about not wanting to see you again. When you tried reaching out to them again, they might have shut you down. However, a few days down the line, they may text you or ask you out for a coffee.
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  1. They see you in a positive light. Things they once found annoying about you are no longer bothersome. They have done some reflection, understood their errors, and learned to accept you as you are. This is a sign that they miss the relationship with you and might want to get back.

All these signs hold good only when you and your ex have been separated for petty misunderstandings or due to long distance. That stated, if you have been in an abusive relationship or if your ex has been manipulative, then do not rush to rekindle your relationship as it could have negative consequences.

Fights and misunderstandings are common in a healthy relationship. If you have messed up the relationship, then put your pride aside and ask for forgiveness. If you see positive signs your ex still has feelings for you, you could consider the possibility of reconciliation while prioritizing your feelings and personal well-being.

What To Do If Your Ex Wants To Get Back Together

If you recognize the signs that your ex might want to come back, you need to handle the situation carefully and thoughtfully to avoid miscommunication and mistakes. Here’s what you can do.

  1. Assess their intentions: Observe their actions and words and try to understand if they wish to get back together because they truly care about you or are lonely. If your ex is sincere about working on the issues that caused the breakup, you may give them a chance. However, if the efforts are not real and feel non-committal, consider taking a step back.
  2. Reflect on your feelings: Ask yourself if you still love them and wish to give the relationship another try. Reflect on the moments you shared with them and figure out if a second chance would be worth the effort and time. Evaluate if the relationship was healthy and if you both have grown since the breakup.
  3. Communicate clearly: Consider having an open dialogue with them about the issues you faced during the relationship, your expectations from them, and your feelings about the situation. Listen to their responses and see if you are on the same page. 
  4. Take your time: If you decide to give your ex another chance, avoid rushing into things. Your ex might want to reunite, but it’s important to build trust and observe if the relationship can work this time around. Check how your ex has changed since the breakup and if the previous issues have been resolved.
  5. Set boundaries: It’s necessary to set boundaries to prevent miscommunication and disagreements. Let them know what you are comfortable with and ask them the same. If you don’t wish to get back together, draw the line and avoid giving mixed signals.

How To Move On If Your Ex Isn’t Coming Back

Whether your ex isn’t coming back or you don’t wish to reconcile with them, it’s time for you to move on. Moving on can be pretty challenging but it also offers the opportunity for personal growth and healing. Here are a few things you can try (2).

  1. Accept the reality: No matter how sad or difficult, it’s important to accept that the relationship is over. Process the disappointment, anger, or sadness you might be feeling—allow yourself to experience the pain, and do not blame yourself for the loss. Do not suppress your emotions as it will prolong the grieving process. You may also try writing about your feelings and journaling to process your emotions. 
  2. Cut off contact: Take a break and stop keeping tabs on your ex on social media or through mutual friends. Consider blocking, unfollowing, or muting them to avoid seeing their content.
  3. Focus on yourself: Spend this time to learn more about yourself and heal. Do things you enjoy, whether it’s exercising, traveling, cooking, reading your favorite book, taking a yoga class, or setting up a new personal goal. Redirect your mind and energy toward self-development.
  4. Talk to your loved ones: Seek the companionship and support of your trusted friends and family members during this time. You can also join new social circles for a fresh start. Being around positive people will impact your mood and help you feel loved and valued.
  5. Be open to new possibilities: You don’t have to rush, but be open to the idea that love can come to you in various ways. So, embrace new relationships whenever you feel ready.

Blogger Azura Salsabilla says, “I’m moving on by introducing myself to more fun new things like running, swimming, cycling, and meeting new people added more knowledge. On the way to moving on, I met some humble people who are passionate about what they do, realizing that there are many things in this world that are more meaningful…I may have lost my boyfriend but I found myself. I found another side of me, I can do everything by myself, finish my first marathon, cycle by myself, and romanticize this single phase (i).”

Frequently Asked Questions

1. How do I know if my breakup is temporary?

Determining if a breakup is temporary or permanent can be difficult. You may consider factors such as open communication and understanding between you two, a mutual desire to work on the relationship, and a history of temporary breakups. However, it is believed only time and effort in resolving issues can determine the outcome of the breakup.

2. How do I know that my ex has moved on?

Signs that your ex has moved on include starting a new relationship, limiting contact with you, appearing happy and fulfilled, and expressing no interest in rekindling the relationship. However, it’s important to remember that everyone moves on at their own pace and in their own way. Therefore, it is vital to respect their feelings and allow them the time and space they need to move forward.

3. How long does it usually take for an ex to come back?

There is no fixed timing or guarantee that your ex will return. It all depends on specific circumstances and the two people who are involved. It can also depend on the reasons for the breakup, willingness to change, and personal growth.

4. Should I try to contact my ex if I think they might come back?

Deciding whether or not to contact your ex is a personal decision. Do not make any rash decisions based on how you are currently feeling. Put in some thought before deciding to contact them and look to see if there are signs your ex wants you back. Take your time to heal, try to self-reflect and see what went wrong the last time, understand your feelings, and check if you are ready to talk to them again.

5. How can I increase the chances of my ex coming back?

If you want to return to your ex, try to reevaluate your relationship to know what went wrong the last time. Make sure you take time apart to fully understand if this is what you both want. Apologize to your ex if needed, show them your efforts to repair the relationship, and listen to what they want. Remember not to force your ex to return if they have already moved on. Do not act too desperate.

6. Should I wait for my ex to come back, or should I move on?

After breaking up, take some time to self-reflect before jumping back into the relationship because of how you’re feeling. Establish a no-contact period to clarify whether you want to get back together. Since it is a very personal decision depending on your own experience, the outcome depends on you. Make sure your decision aligns with your happiness, and if you are finding it difficult to decide, take the help of friends and family, and even professional help if needed. However, if you were in an abusive relationship, the good decision is to always move on.

Some signs your ex will eventually come back can be challenging to pick on. It is more common among couples who split due to petty reasons and misunderstandings. If you both have been away for a while, it is possible that you both were able to analyze what went wrong and want to mend things with each other. However, if you had to part ways since the relationship was abusive and toxic, don’t bother to understand the moves by your ex. If you see the relationship growing into something more positive and beneficial for both, you must try to understand these signs and talk to them only if you are sure to get back with them.

Infographic: Signs Your Ex Will Eventually Come Back

Breaking up with your significant other can be hard, and there might be times when you want to have them back in your life. The signs mentioned above can help you determine whether your ex will return to you. To help you further, we have prepared this infographic with more signs indicating that your ex will come back into your life.

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Illustration: Definite Signs Your Ex Will Eventually Come Back To You

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Are you still hoping your ex will come back? Check out this video to learn 4 signs that your ex may eventually return!

Personal Experience: Source

MomJunction articles include first-hand experiences to provide you with better insights through real-life narratives. Here are the sources of personal accounts referenced in this article.

i. Life after breakup?;
https://medium.com/@azurasalsa42/life-after-breakup-948b6a041c4b

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