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Suppose you are in a healthy relationship with your partner. However, suddenly, your spouse starts to behave differently, leaving you wondering if these are the signs your partner wants to leave you. They may start to be secretive, be grumpy and unhappy in your company, and even express their disinterest in you.
Your partner’s changed behaviors may cause you to experience hurt and anguish and tingle your intuition. Altogether, it is better to be aware of any red flags so you can prepare yourself for the worst.
If you are in such a situation and think your spouse wants to move out of the relationship, this post will help you recognize the signs that your partner wants to leave you. Reading them could help you understand the possible things going wrong in your relationship.
Key Pointers
- If your partner avoids you, refuses to show their love, or acts secretive, they may want to leave you.
- They may begin to oppose anything you say and get defensive even on your playful comments.
- Talk it out before you decide the next step for your relationship.
19 Signs Your Partner Wants To Leave You
The partner, who intends to leave, shows a combination of signs. These signs could indicate that your partner is considering leaving you. However, don’t come to conclusions until you are sure about it.
1. They avoid you
Do you think your partner is avoiding you? Say, they have been canceling the outing or dinner plans you make. They are trying to avoid late-night talks and prefer watching TV alone. They come home very late, sometimes not until after you may have gone to bed. These behavior changes could suggest that they are trying to stay away from you. These changes in behavior, without any apparent reason, like a recent fight, could be considered red flags indicating avoidance on their part.
2. They don’t talk about the future or involve you in plans
Every couple makes certain plans, like buying a house, raising children, going on a trip, or creating a joint bank account. But in recent times, your partner doesn’t show any interest. Even when you try to pull them into such discussions, they evade.
One of the probable signs that your partner wants to leave you is their increasing indifference towards your relationship. In some cases, your partner makes plans with friends or family members but does not invite you. You only come to know later through common friends and relatives. If such episodes have become common lately, it could be a matter of concern.
3. They don’t communicate with you
A significant indicator that your partner is considering leaving you is the breakdown of communication. When partners stop discussing their feelings or sharing personal thoughts, it can create a chasm in the relationship. Open communication is vital for addressing issues before they escalate. Seek to have honest conversations about your concerns and feelings to gauge where your partner stands.
4. They are not interested in physical intimacy
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Intimacy keeps the relationship active and healthy. If you are experiencing a declivity in your intimate life or a loss of intimacy, you should talk to your partner about it. It’s okay for a while. But if it continues for a while, it could indicate that your partner wants to maintain a distance from you and is considering separation.
5. They no longer express their love
Some people express their love by saying, ‘I love you’ several times a day. A few of them kiss or do something unique to make their partner feel special. You know what your partner does to express love. But if you think such instances are now missing from your life, it could be one of the signs that your relationship is over.
Point to consider6. They act secretive
Your partner shuts down their laptop the moment you enter the room. They sneak out of the house when someone calls or sneak out when you are asleep. These kinds of secretive acts could seem unusual, and could be due to their intention to break up.
7. They spend time away from home
Your spouse is enjoying their friends’ company more than yours, or they are going early and coming late from the office. The time spent with you at home is decreasing with each passing day. Your partner is neither spending weekends nor family holidays with you. It could be a sign of emotional detachment.
8. They fight a lot
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Quarreling is common in a relationship. But you both forget and get along with time as a healthy couple. However, of late, your partner is picking up several fights over trivial matters. Persistent frustration and irritation in your partner’s interactions with you may suggest they are unhappy in the relationship. If he disagrees with everything you say or do, it is one of the clear signs he doesn’t care about the relationship.
9. They constantly disapprove of you
Your partner once used to enjoy spending time with you. But things have changed now. When you sit together, they either get angry at you or look upset, displaying a lack of affection. They don’t seem to care how you are and where you are, or even bother to find out if and why you are upset. They don’t pay attention when you don’t come home or if you are crying. That shows their falling interest in the relationship and reflects their unhappiness with you.
10. They give you the silent treatment
Partners in a relationship argue, nag, taunt, scold, and fight. What they don’t do is stay silent. If your spouse is shutting you down entirely without validating their reasons, it could be troublesome. Sometimes, when situations change and things are unexpressed, it could be an alarming moment signifying a chasm in your relationship.
11. They talk about a break
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After a big argument or a fight, your spouse may ask you for some space. That’s completely normal once or twice. But what if they frequently say ‘it’s enough,’ or ‘I need a break from you or this relationship.’ It doesn’t feel logical, does it? It may be one of the signs that your marriage is over.
Do remember12. They separate the financial accounts
Did you notice anything suspicious about your spouse’s financial activities? Creating a personal bank account is fine, but not informing anything and separating money from your joint bank accounts is fishy. If they don’t give you any reasoning, it could be a clue that they are considering separation and are no longer happy in the relationship.
13. They work on their appearance
Working out, dressing up, and bringing changes in a personality is not something to be worried about. But if all these changes are quite sudden and they don’t tell you what’s happening, then you may have to think about it. Such a transformation certainly raises suspicion.
14. They get defensive
When your partner gives you backhand comments for everything, the resentment is clearly visible. Teasing each other in a relationship with playful comments is normal. But holding anger and criticism in every line they speak is not acceptable in a healthy relationship.
15. They constantly use the phone
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You find your spouse using the phone all day and night, sometimes smiling and then moving away from you. Either they want some distraction in life, or they are having an affair. If such a thing goes on for weeks and months, then it could be a red flag.
16. They disconnect you from social media
Lately, your spouse is trying to hide their stories and updates from you on their social media accounts. That may seem okay when you were teenagers or dating. But in a serious relationship, if something as such happens, it could be something to think about.
17. They threaten or joke about leaving you
When it’s on their lips, it could be in their mind. If they say things like, “maybe we’re bad for each other,” or “We wouldn’t have to deal with it if we were not together,” etc., in humor or when you are having a serious conversation, it could be a concern. You may have to pay attention to their words and behavior, and act accordingly.
18. They refuse to visit a counselor
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Your marriage or relationship seems to be breaking, and you want to fix it by seeking advice from a counselor. You want everything to be normal, but your partner pays no heed to it. They neither want to answer your questions nor accompany you for counseling sessions or therapy. These are signs he is losing interest in you and doesn’t want to mend the relationship.
19. They take bigger steps
Bigger steps here refer to cutting off communication and moving away from the house. You try your best to work on your relationship. You impress your partner, plan dates, buy gifts, and try to talk. But your partner is neither focusing on your efforts nor trying to explain their changed behavior. Occasionally the partner who wants to leave the relationship presents the signs, in such a way, to provoke a negative reaction from you, thus justifying the break-up. It clearly expresses that they want to break the relationship or marriage.
Frequently Asked Questions
1. What to do when your partner is thinking of leaving you?
If your partner is thinking of leaving you, here are a few tips that can help you traverse through this challenging period:
- Do not blame yourself for anything or everything that happened.
- Avoid overthinking and getting nervous about the future.
- Take care of yourself.
- Refrain from making any major decisions during this period.
- Stay away from self-harming and addictive habits.
2. What causes a man to leave a woman?
Some possible reasons for a man to leave their significant other are:
- Lack of physical and emotional intimacy
- Lack of compatibility
- He felt burdened with too much responsibility.
- He developed feelings for someone else.
- The relationship was toxic and draining.
3. What should I do when my partner wants a break and I don’t?
- Give yourself time to grieve.
- Come to terms with the chances of your partner leaving.
- Focus on yourself.
- Reflect on your relationship and try to find out what might have gone wrong.
- Be optimistic about the future.
4. How do I know if a breakup is temporary or permanent?
Here are some possible signs that suggest the breakup is not permanent.
- They invest a lot of time in you.
- They call you up randomly.
- They are not doing well in their life without you.
- They meet you often.
5. When to seek professional help?
If you notice multiple signs and feel overwhelmed by the situation, it may be beneficial to seek the help of a relationship counselor. Professional guidance can provide tools and strategies to improve communication and understanding between partners, ultimately helping to repair or clarify the relationship.
Although you share a good relationship with your partner, some circumstances may change their behavior toward you. You may think this is a rough phase and will be sorted out in some time. However, your partner does not seem to express their feelings and remains unaffected by the changes. It may prompt you to start looking for signs your partner wants to leave you. Be observant and notice subtle signs of your partner avoiding you, not expressing love like before, or staying away from home. Recognizing these signs can be emotionally taxing, and it’s essential to approach the situation with care and self-reflection. Understanding your partner’s behavior can help you navigate your emotions and make informed decisions about the future of your relationship. Talk to your partner about their changed behavior, understand their perspective, and then try to decide the future of your relationship.
Infographic: How To Approach Your Partner If They Want To Leave You?
Once you have checked these signs and they match your partner’s behavior, you need to decide the way forward. Go through the infographic below for suggestions to help you make a mature decision without jumping to conclusions. Illustration: Momjunction Design Team
Illustration: Probable Signs Your Partner Wants To Leave You
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It’s time to face the facts: your relationship may be over. Here are the 5 signs to look out for.
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