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Who is a soulmate? How do you know if someone is your soulmate? The word soulmate, as per Merriam-Webster dictionary, means “A close friend or romantic partner with whom one has a unique deep connection based on mutual understanding and acceptance.”
Christian Stokke, associate professor at the University of Southeastern Norway, says in his study report (1), “Spiritual love relations overlap with romantic love, but do not depend on physical form.”
“Soulmates are mutual relations of spiritual love. Whether soulmates form romantic relations, friendships, parent-child or sibling relations, they report similar phenomena.”
In this post, we tell you about the various types of soulmates and signs you have found.
Key Pointers
- Soulmates can be romantic partners or best friends who make each other feel loved and cherished.
- You will share an ineffable affinity and utmost understanding like you share with no other.
- Finding a soulmate may not be easy; be watchful of the telltale signs that say if someone is your soulmate.
Types Of Soulmates
Soulmates are of the following types based on the different connections of relationships.
- Romantic soulmates are the most common type, where two people consider each other the love of their lives.
- Twin flames are the ones that share the same soul and have a spiritual connection
- Platonic soulmates are people who collaborate.
- A soul family is when you have family members that have a special connection with you.
- Soulmate friends are the ones who become your support system in every aspect.
- Kindred spirits refer to spiritually connected soulmates.
- Karmic soulmates teach you something or influence you at a crucial stage of your life.
20 Signs To Know If Someone Is Your Soulmate
If you believe you have met someone special, looking for signs that indicate they may be your soulmate is essential. If this person exhibits the following signs, you have likely found your soulmate.
1. You meet them at the right time
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You may have crossed paths with your soulmate multiple times. And when it’s the right time and you meet, you’ll often feel an undeniable attraction. You’ll also be surprised about how close you were to meeting them before but never did until this first official meeting.
2. You need not play games with them
A soulmate connection goes beyond physical attraction, resonating deeply with the soul and fulfilling a profound inner longing (1). When you’re with a soulmate, you don’t need to play games to get them to want you, as the attraction between you two will be genuine and mutual.
Did you know?3. You get along like best friends
There is an almost instant connection and comfort when you meet your soulmate (1). You quickly become best friends with them because you understand each other better than anyone else and have a strong compatibility.
4. You feel you can read their mind
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Words are rarely necessary to express feelings with a soulmate. You have such a strong bond that even brief eye contact can reveal what is going on in their mind. You’ll even find yourselves filling in words for each other when one of you gets stuck while speaking.
5. You have similar life goals
You may have decided to take a particular path and set goals for yourself. Don’t be surprised if your soulmate has similar life goals. You will also be on the same page regarding ethics and values (2).
6. You do not feel jealous
You know your soulmate on such a deep level that you are not threatened or jealous by any attractive person around them. You feel safe in your relationship because you know they will not connect with anyone as genuinely and strongly as they are with you.
7. You are comfortable with silence
There is no awkward silence when you are with your soulmate. Instead, the silence becomes soothing and comforting. You may be in the same room as them, but the silence will be inexplicably soothing.
8. You feel what they feel
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Empathy levels between soulmates generally remain high because you tend to know how your soulmate feels. The moment you see them, you get a sense of how they truly feel on the inside. They may smile on the outside, but only you can tell if their smile conceals their anger, sadness, melancholy, and other emotions.
9. You see the good in their bad
Everyone has flaws, but only a soulmate sees the advantages in their partners’ flaws. For instance, your partner may be a cleanliness freak, but you don’t mind because their space always smells and feels good. Similarly, you may be highly impatient, but your partner notices how you are always on time or early.
10. You respect differences in opinion
Being soulmates does not imply you will always agree. You have differences in views and personalities, but you respect each other’s differences and are always loyal to them.
11. You do not think of separation
There are times when you fight and argue with your soulmate, but neither of you considers splitting up. Even if either of you is highly enraged, you refrain from crossing the line and share a profound commitment and respect.
12. You bring out the best in each other
A soulmate will support your dreams and goals. They not only encourage you when you do your best but also challenge you when they believe you can do better (3). They will enable you to push beyond your limits and discover the hidden potential that you may overlook.
13. You happily give in to each other’s wishes
When soulmates give, it is not out of fear or compulsion but true love and devotion. Because you and your soulmate intend to make each other happy, you will find yourselves giving in to each other’s wishes to see the other’s content.
Point to consider14. You feel your insane chemistry
Whether physical or mental, soulmates have undeniable chemistry. You may have the most satisfying intimate encounters and understand how to give each other space and not cling to each other for attention.
15. You are two halves of one
We all have flaws, but your soulmate makes up for your shortcomings while you compensate for theirs. Together, you complete each other. If you are shy of public speaking, your soulmate will be a people person. And if they are weak at math, you’ll be a mathematical genius.
Dawn Elizabeth, a writer and creator, shares how she and her husband find harmony and synergy in their partnership. She explains, “I’m his editor when he needs to draft an email or grad school application. He’s my rock when I’m feeling emotional. I make plans and spice up his life, and when I get too carried away with projects, he is the anchor that brings me back down to earth. We’re a good balance and complement each other nicely (i).”
16. You feel at ease with them
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No matter how disastrous your work meeting was or how horrible an argument you had with a friend, the moment you meet your soulmate, the stress, anger, and frustration fade away. A warm hug from your companion can put you at ease because they provide you the warmth that you require to overcome tensions.
17. You love them even at their worst
Your soulmate makes a significant business mistake and loses all of their money, or they have a rare run-in with the law. Nothing can change your feelings for them, no matter how low they fall. You continue to adore them like you always have because your love for them is unconditional.
18. You feel loved and cherished
Your soulmate notices things about you that no one else does. They compliment you on the most unlikely of your characteristics, and they make you feel loved in ways you have never felt before.
19. You let your guard down
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Opening up to someone you love can be difficult, especially if you are afraid they will dislike your true personality. This fear does not exist when you have a soulmate because they accept you for who you are. You’re not afraid to express yourself or be your eccentric self because you know nothing about you can turn them off. You trust your soulmate wholeheartedly and are fully devoted to them.
20. You feel it from within
When you meet your soulmate, your conscience tells you they are the one you are destined to be with. You feel from within that you have found the person you longed for.
The Importance Of Soulmate Connections
The bond between soulmates is marked by mutual understanding and a sense of belongingness. This relationship provides you with a nonjudgmental, empathetic space to express your needs openly. A soulmate may influence how you perceive yourself and that can be good or bad. Some experts opine that having a soulmate is not as important as working towards making a relationship stronger. A report titled, ‘The Soulmate Trap: Why Embracing Agency-Based Love is the Surest Path to Creating a Flourishing Marriage’ challenges the idea that lasting romantic relationships are simply the result of a magical or spontaneous attraction. The research shows that strong, lasting relationships are built on the personal virtues and intentional efforts of both partners. David Schramm, one of the researchers from Utah State University Extension, says, “The findings from our report suggest that this ‘soulmate’ way of thinking diverts attention from the truth that loving relationships are made, not found.
“The happiest and most strongly connected couples in our study were those who developed compassion and humility and were intentional in strengthening their relationship.” This highlights that while soulmate connections can be special, the real strength of a relationship, even with a soulmate, comes from commitment, effort, and growth put into it (4).
Frequently Asked Questions
1. What is a soulmate?
A soulmate is a person with whom you share a deep emotional and soul connection. Being with them makes you feel loved and cherished. They understand you like no other and love you unconditionally. Your soulmate embraces your flaws and qualities and makes you feel comfortable in your skin. They are the only person with whom you share your deep secrets and feelings without fearing being judged or evaluated.
2. Is it possible to know who your soulmate is before meeting them?
Without meeting them, you would not know who your soulmate is. However, subtle signs may indicate your soulmate is near you. It is believed that when you are about to meet your soulmate, you find balance in life and start working on yourself. You get over your exes and have a clear vision for your future life and relationship. Above all, you feel filled with positive energy and experience love around you.
3. Do soulmates end up together?
Sometimes soulmates stay together forever, and sometimes they may have to let each other go. Whether soulmates end up together depends on several factors, such as how they resonate and work to keep their relationship going. Even when soulmates separate, it is often said that they still have a deep spiritual connection. They may get physically distant, but their love remains fresh in their hearts and memories.
4. Can I have more than one soulmate?
Yes, it is possible to have more than one soulmate, and you will likely come across different soulmates during your life.
5. How can I recognize if I’ve found my soulmate?
To recognize your soulmate, look for someone you feel a deep connection and ease of communication with. A relationship where you can be open and honest without fear of judgment is a clear sign, too. A soulmate supports your personal growth, helping you become your best self. These connections often come at the right time, especially after challenges or growth. For example, you may reconnect with someone after years, and despite life’s changes, it feels like no time has passed, instantly rekindling the bond between you both.
A soulmate is someone who is like your personal diary. They can keep all your secrets safe and will not judge you whatsoever. A soulmate is not necessarily a romantic partner, but they can also be your good friend. It is rare but wonderful to have your soulmate as your life partner. Keep your eyes and heart open, and look around for the signs so you can identify when you find your soulmate.
Infographic: Things To Know When Searching For A Soulmate
Finding a romantic soulmate can be an exciting experience but can involve a long search. You may also be unsure how to proceed in your search for the one in the first place. Check out the infographic below for tips to help you in your journey. Illustration: Momjunction Design Team
Illustration: Telltale Signs To Know If Someone Is Your Soulmate
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Personal Experience: Source
MomJunction articles include first-hand experiences to provide you with better insights through real-life narratives. Here are the sources of personal accounts referenced in this article.
i. 7 steps to find your soulmate for Life!;https://wildsimplejoy.com/how-to-find-your-soul-mate-life/
References
- Exploring the transpersonal phenomena of spiritual love relations: A naturalistic observation study of soulmate experiences shared in a New Age Facebook group
https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/20440243.2021.1955454?scroll=top&needAccess=true#abstract - The Soul Mates Model A Seven-Stage Model for Couple’s Long-Term Relationship Development and Flourishing
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/258193200_The_Soul_Mates_Model_A_Seven-Stage_Model_for_Couple%27s_Long-Term_Relationship_Development_and_Flourishing - Psychology Finally Reveals the Answer to Finding Your Soulmate
https://www.gottman.com/blog/psychology-finally-reveals-the-answer-to-finding-your-soulmate/ - Research From USU Extension Specialist Challenges the Idea of ’Soulmates’
https://www.usu.edu/today/story/research-from-usu-extension-specialist-challenges-the-idea-of-soulmates
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