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After being in a beautiful relationship with your girlfriend, sometimes things may fall apart, and you may decide to part ways. However, you may still keep thinking about her and wonder about things to say to your ex-girlfriend to get her back.
Post a breakup, if you decide to mend your relationship with your ex, you must think about why you decided to part ways. For example, if it was loyalty or trust issues, you might rethink getting your girl back, as the process could cause you more pain and hurt.
However, if your breakup had other reasons, the thought of losing her could keep haunting you. One way to draw your ex’s attention is by texting, as it stirs a sense of mystery and curiosity in a person. Read on as we bring some magical words to say to your ex-girlfriend to get her back into your life.
Key Pointers
- To mend your relationship with your girlfriend, tell her you are sorry and willing to change.
- You may say things like you respect her feelings, you understand her, and that you would have done the same.
- Talk about your happy memories to remind her of your love.
15 Things To Say To Your Ex-Girlfriend To Get Her Back
Using the right words can help you win her heart back. Here are some magical lines to revive the spirit of your romantic emotions. However, before reaching out, take time for self-reflection—consider what went wrong in the relationship and how you can grow as an individual. This can help you understand your past mistakes and make you more attractive to your ex-girlfriend.
1. “How have you been?”
To show you still care for her, ask her about her well-being. It’s also a great line to break the ice. As a useful communication tip, text her, and if she reciprocates, it means there is something to look forward to. Keep texting her until she gets the urge to talk to you or initiates for a reunion. For example, you can text her, “Hey, I was just thinking about you and wondering how you’ve been lately. I hope everything’s well.”
2. “I’ve grown and am willing to change.”
Did she break up with you because you were casual towards your relationship? If so, convince her about your seriousness post-breakup, and let her know how guilty you feel for ignoring her wishes. Admit to her how much you want to guard her, and make her feel she is the most deserving partner you wish for. For instance, you can say, “I know I messed up, but I’ve spent a lot of time reflecting. I’ve worked on myself and genuinely want to be a better partner for you.”
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3. “I am sorry.”
It’s a magical line. Even if she is wrong, remember that none of us is perfect, and we all make mistakes. Take responsibility for any mistakes you have made and any part you may have played in the break up. And if the bulk of the blame falls on your shoulders, be sure that your remorse is evident with sincere commitment. The thumb rule is to be sincere if you want to move the relationship forward, remember, it should be an honest apology. Transparency goes a long way in rekindling intimacy and love. You could say, “I’m really sorry for hurting you, and I understand the pain I caused. You didn’t deserve that, and I truly regret my actions.”
Sujat Kr, shares his experience of how apologizing has helped him in his relationship and winning his ex back. He says, “Most of my experiences with apologizing were good and have yielded positive results in keeping my relationships strong (i).”
4. “I respect your feelings.”
Was she ever hurt because you flirted with her friends casually? Some girls could be possessive. Understand her likes and dislikes, and make her feel wanted. Let her know that she is on top of your priority list. You can say, “I know you felt unheard when I dismissed your concerns. I respect your feelings now and want to make sure you feel valued.”
Point to consider5. “I would like to give you more space.”
Did the relationship go sour due to your unrealistic expectations? Too much interference into each other’s lives can be suffocating. Perhaps you have learned that it is crucial to respect each other’s space in a relationship. Promise to let her know that she’s her own boss and that you’ve realized your mistake. For example, you can say, “I realized I may have been overbearing. You deserve your space and the freedom to decide what’s best for you.”
6. “ I want to give you freedom of choice.”
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Give freedom to your girlfriend. Tell her that the final decision is hers and you will respect it. Being in a relationship does not mean a person has to compromise every time and sacrifice everything. Let her assess the situation by herself. Being persistent is good, but don’t force yourself on her. You can say, “It’s completely your choice to decide how you feel about us. I just want you to know that I’m here, and I care.”
7. “I want to make things right for us.”
You may have had your shares of highs and lows. But now, when you sit back and think, you realize how meaningless and thoughtless your arguments were. Give her this feeling of validation. The assurance will give her positive vibes and motivate her to try once more as it projects your maturity. For example, you can say, “I’ve thought a lot about our relationship. I want to make up for my mistakes and work on building something stronger.”
8. “I can’t stop thinking about you.”
You still hold feelings for her and can’t get over her. Let her know you miss her and think about her every day. Stop beating around the bush and be straightforward indicating your desire for togetherness. For example, you can say, “Every song, place, silly joke reminds me of you. You’ve been on my mind a lot lately.”
9. “I miss you.”
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“I miss you” is a small statement, but it ushers a sea of emotions. If she really wanted to hear this, you can expect an immediate reply from her. For example, you can say, “I miss how we used to laugh over the smallest things. Life feels incomplete without sharing those moments with you.”
10. “If I were in your place, I would have done the same.”
Was your relationship filled with tenderness before she called it quits? Imagine how gravely you must have hurt her. It’s never too late to mend your ways. Accept your mistakes. If you had gone overboard in the past, make her feel that it will be a new start. You can say, “I understand why you made that choice. If I were in your shoes, I might have reacted the same way.”
11. “No one can replace you.”
Do not express it in a way that suggests you are pining for her. Say it casually and highlight her humbleness and kindness. Remind her of all the praiseworthy things she has done for you. Show your courtesy by telling her she’s the best and you have never come across a person like her. For example, you can try saying “I’ve met different people, but no one comes close to the connection we shared.”
Quick tip12. “I want our relationship to last.”
When considering things to say to your ex-girlfriend to get her back, ask yourself if your relationship went downhill because of your inconstancy. It’s time to change now. Explain to her that you have mended your ways and are in for the long haul with an unwavering devotion. For example, you can try saying “I want to build something lasting with you this time. I’m ready to put in the work to make it right.”
13. “Can we start all over again?”
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Assure her that your heart still beats for her. There is nothing wrong with making a new beginning. Maybe it didn’t work then, but a fresh start may be a harbinger of good times and mutual understanding. Let her feel wanted. This statement is a signal to tell her that you are a changed man now. For example, you may try saying, “Let’s forget the past and start afresh. I know we can create new memories that are even better.”
14. “I still love you.”
There is nothing wrong with expressing your feelings. If you love someone, let them know before it gets too late. Maybe your ex was waiting for you to say these words to reunite with you. Keep reinventing yourself to capture her attention. Tell her “I’ve realized that my feelings for you haven’t changed. I still love you and want to show you how much.”
15. “Do you remember……..(any happy memory)?”
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Talking about those happy memories can trigger different emotions in your ex. Remind her of how you met for the first time or about your first coffee date. Reminiscing about the happy conversations can rekindle that lost compassion. For example, you can say, “Do you remember that trip to the beach when we couldn’t stop laughing? It was one of the happiest days of my life.”
It is tough to deal with the breakup blues. You have to go through a whirlwind of emotions to revive that lost trust and continue healing your broken heart. Nevertheless, keep trying for that one last chance to defuse your relationship. However, if she has moved on or is unwilling to come back, it is better you, too, let go and move on rather than to plead for reconciliation (1).
Common Mistakes To Avoid When Trying To Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back
Here are some things you should avoid to ensure you do not drive her further apart.
- Do not bombard her with calls and text messages.
- Do not bring up previous conflicts and disagreements; rather, start afresh.
- Do not use guilt to manipulate her emotions.
- Do not beg her to take you back. Instead, focus on improving yourself so she gets attracted to you.
- Be honest about your mistakes and accept them.
- Do not try petty things like making her feel jealous.
- Do not rush her into moving on. Give her enough time to heal.
- Do not play the victim card, and do not seek pity.
Signs That Your Ex Wants You Back
Sometimes, it can be hard to tell if your ex is still interested in rekindling the relationship. Here are some key signs that your ex wants you back.
- They stay in touch: Frequent calls, texts, or reasons to contact you suggest they still want to be part of your life.
- They bring up the past: Reminiscing about happy moments signals they’re thinking about the good times and may want to revisit them.
- They ask about your dating life: Curiosity about your relationship status often shows they’re hoping you’re still single and available.
- They make plans to see you: If your ex finds excuses to meet up or shows up where you are, it’s likely intentional and a sign they want to reconnect.
- They show jealousy: Negative reactions to the thought of you dating someone new often point to lingering feelings.
- They talk about self-improvement: Mentioning personal growth or changes may be their way of showing they’re ready to make things better this time.
- They engage on social media: Liking your posts or commenting on them shows they’re still keeping tabs and care about what’s happening in your life.
- They apologize for past mistakes: Taking responsibility and offering apologies is often their way of reopening the door to reconciliation.
Frequently Asked Questions
1. How do I convince my ex to trust me again?
What you do to repair your relationship will vary depending on the reasons behind your breakup. The process may begin with you owning up to your mistake instead of denying or justifying it. You must apologize unconditionally for your actions to take moral responsibility. If your ex wants to vent or share their side of the story, listen with patience. Trust is difficult to rebuild once lost, so be patient and hope for the best.
2. How do I make my ex miss me?
Post breakup, you might be tempted to call or text your ex but hold yourself. There is a reason you broke up, and pestering your ex with calls or texts might worsen the situation. You cannot make someone miss you if you keep calling or texting them. Give them space and time to miss you. In the meantime, spend time with yourself and close friends, focusing on staying positive and happy. If you meet your ex, stay calm and appear positive. You may have more chances of getting your ex back if they are reminded of the person they fell for in the first place.
3. How important is the no-contact rule after a breakup?
The no-contact rule is essential for allowing both parties to heal and reflect on the relationship. It creates space for emotional clarity and often makes the heart grow fonder, providing a better foundation for a potential reconciliation.
People usually break up for reasons that are unfixable. At times, one may have regret and second thoughts about the decision to break up and may wish to reconcile with their lady love. It might take some sincere efforts for you to beg for her forgiveness and woo your girl. If you feel it from your heart, give it all you’ve got. The above statements can help you break the ice and have the conversation started with your ex. If she feels your intentions are right, she might forgive you and even consider taking you back. Look out for signs your ex wants you back. However, if she doesn’t want to get back, don’t push her and move on with your life.
Infographic: Sincere Words To Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back
Getting your ex back can be tough, especially if the breakup was too hurtful for them. But words can be powerful, and if you pick the right ones to say, you convey your sincerity and genuine emotions and win her back. So this infographic has a few more heartfelt phrases to help you regain your relationship. Illustration: Momjunction Design Team
Saying sorry and apologizing sincerely is the first step to winning your ex-girlfriend back. Watch this entire video to discover more highly effective ways to get back with your ex. Remember, the journey to win back your ex-girlfriend is not just about the right words, but also about your personal growth and maturity throughout the process. Focus on becoming the best version of yourself, and let your actions speak louder than words.
Personal Experience: Source
MomJunction articles include first-hand experiences to provide you with better insights through real-life narratives. Here are the sources of personal accounts referenced in this article.
i. 5 Things I Did To Get My Ex-Girlfriend Back;
https://medium.com/know-thyself-heal-thyself/5-things-i-did-to-get-my-ex-girlfriend-back-b67ba66a5c40
References
- The Painful Truth About Breakups.
https://jedfoundation.org/resource/the-painful-truth-about-breakups/
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