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When you are attracted to someone, you may be lost for words when approaching them. Thus, we tell you about the things to talk about with your crush in this post. Engaging conversations help create a lasting impression and build better relationships. So, if you wish to develop a good bond with your crush, it is important to talk to them and try to get to know them.
Finding the right questions and expressions is crucial when making the first move. They help break the ice and help you know your crush’s personality and opinions. You might feel awkward initially, but try to let go of your worries, relax, and be yourself. Nothing will appeal more to your crush than you being your authentic self. However, this is easier said than done. Being your true self requires courage and confidence.
This article gives you some ideas about what to talk about with your crush. These ideas will help you overcome the initial awkwardness. And, who knows, you might be able to find something common between you and talk non-stop about it!
150 Things To Talk About With Your Crush
The start of any relationship begins with getting to know the other person. But do you know how to talk to your crush or know what stuff to talk about safely with your crush? These topics will help you get to know your crush better without being too intrusive.
“Get To Know You” Things
The start of any relationship begins with getting to know the other person. But how to decide what stuff to talk about safely with your crush? These topics will help you get to know your crush better without being too intrusive.
1. What do you like to do on dates?
You might potentially ask your crush out for a date. For that, you need to know what they enjoy the most to plan accordingly and make the date special.
2. Which are your favorite board games or video games?
You can ask their favorites if you know your crush is a gaming geek. Gamers might be more than happy to share information with you. Even if you are not a gamer, you can try it. Perhaps you might also develop an interest in it and can bond over it with your crush.
3. What are your hobbies?
Hobbies are often great conversation starters and play a role in bonding. It is one of the safest topics you can talk about with almost anyone, and you can talk a little longer with your crush if you have some hobbies in common. Even if you don’t have common interests, learning about new things can be enjoyable while also signaling to your crush that you are interested in them.
Point to consider4. What are your life goals?
A life goal is a deep topic of discussion. If your life goals are similar, you can work together to encourage each other. Based on their answer, you would know how deeply committed they are in life.
UK-based couple Robyn and Henry run the blog A Couple Things To Do love traveling the world. They say, “We are always sharing our business ideas and career goals! It motivates us both but also connects us as we share our passions (i).”
5. What is your most significant source of inspiration?
When your crush shares their life goals with you, ask them what’s driving them towards it. Their response will help you understand their thought process and what keeps them going.
6. What is your favorite season and why?
Ask about their favorite season when you have run out of topics. It can be a light conversation starter and give you an insight into their likes and dislikes. Also, share your favorite season to keep the conversation going.
7. What is your favorite TV show?
You can talk about TV shows with your crush without a second thought, as it is an innocuous topic of discussion. It gives you some points to discuss and an opportunity to watch the show and update yourself. You could also get merchandise based on the show to impress your crush. If you feel comfortable, you could even watch it together.
8. Who is your best friend?
Best friends are a part of life. You can ask your crush about their best friend and talk about yours. This way, you would know about the important people in each other’s lives and get an idea about how much they value friendship and what place their best friend holds in life. Best friends are also usually a reflection of yourself, so you might learn more about your crush by knowing who their best friend is.
9. What do you value most in a friendship?
Asking this question can give you an idea about the qualities your crush admires in others and what they seek from a friendship. Their answer can tell you about the values that matter the most to your crush.
10. Do you like cooking?
It is a well-known saying that the way to someone’s heart is through their stomach. If your crush likes cooking, you can learn a few new recipes from them. You could also make plans to meet and cook together.
11. What can you cook the best?
If your crush likes cooking, you can ask them about the one dish they are expert at. If you are already flirting with them, you can even ask them to prepare their best dish. In return, offer to cook your best dish for them.
12. Which books do you like to read?
If your crush likes reading, you could ask them about books. Book lovers enjoy talking about books and are willing to listen to a bookworm. If you can talk about books too, that becomes a bonus.
Quick tip13. Which movies and actors do you like?
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It is one of the fail-safe things you can talk about with your crush without the fear of offending them. Of course, if there is a difference in viewpoints, you might want to keep your opinions to yourself. But otherwise, you can talk about their favorite movies and actors. And in case your opinions match, you are in luck.
14. Do you know who our common friends are?
Mutual friends are usually helpful in setting the conversation ball going. Start by asking your crush about a particular friend, and within no time, you will be talking about all your long-forgotten friends and contacts. Who knows, you might have even met before you knew each other.
15. Which is your favorite hangout place?
Find out where your crush likes to hang out and let them know yours. Maybe, if you get to date them in the future, you could go to their favorite place. You can also ask which cuisine they like before planning a date night. These tidbits can help you come closer than you realize.
16. What is your favorite travel destination?
The answer could be some exotic location you never visited or “my living room.” Whatever the answer is, it is sure to spark a conversation with your crush, and soon they might be sharing their travel dreams.
Robyn and Henry reminisce on their time spent with each other and state how their conversations revealed things they previously didn’t know about each other. They say, “We love to travel… and we wouldn’t have known that we had this shared interest if we didn’t bring it up in conversation. Now we travel to different countries together and share our experiences with the world.”
17. Where would you like to go right now?
Your crush may have many places to visit on their bucket list. You may ask them to share their thoughts. You can even offer to join them on their future trip to make things interesting.
18. Is there a moment when you felt you were the luckiest person in the world?
The answer can be funny or sentimental. But it can help you gain more insight into your crush’s life. And if they start to share something personal, they might even begin to develop a bond with you.
19. What’s the most unforgettable experience you’ve had while traveling?
Your crush may have a bad or good experience to share. Listen to them patiently and take the conversation forward by sharing your personal traveling experiences. If you don’t have much to share, ask them for traveling tips to further the conversation.
20. What is your favorite outfit?
When they mention their favorite outfit, extend the conversation by asking more about what they like to wear to a party and their preference on a date. You can keep them engaged by asking similar questions and sharing your fashion tips.
21. Is there any superstition you believe in?
Don’t judge your crush for this; do not laugh at their response. If they believe in good luck charms, ask them more about it. Be sensitive to their choices and preferences in life.
22. Which song makes you want to dance whenever you hear it?
You can use this information to your advantage. Next time you are out together, you can request the DJ to play this song and have a blast matching the dance steps with your crush.
23. Who are your favorite family members?
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Family is what keeps us steady but also drives us crazy. Talking about your family is one of the safe bets when you want to talk with your crush. Ask about their family and tell them about yours. Throw in a silly incident or show the photographs of your family to your crush.
Quick tip24. What do you think about this sport/politician?
If you have a crush on someone, you have most likely looked them up on social media. It will give you an idea about their preferences. If you are a cricket fan and they are into tennis, read up a bit on tennis. You can then start and sustain a conversation about their favorite activities with your crush.
25. Are you a morning person or a night owl?
If you intend to spend nights chatting with your crush, this is an important question. Late-night chatting plans can be ruined if your crush is a morning person and cannot stay up until late at night. However, if they are indeed a morning person, then don’t worry, time your messages just before they retire to bed. You may not be able to chat long, but at least you can be their last thought.
26. What is your go-to comfort food?
Food can not only be a great conversation starter but can also help you bond with your crush. For instance, you’ll know if your crush likes to indulge in a dessert when they feel stressed or low. Next time when you learn that your crush has had a tough day, offer to treat them to some ice cream or cakes. It will lift their mood, and they will be grateful for your thoughtful gesture.
27. Which was your favorite subject in school?
You may ask the subject they disliked the most too. If you liked or disliked similar subjects, it can be a fun topic.
28. Who was your favorite teacher in school?
This could be a personal question that can help you know more about your crush’s childhood. You can ask them what they liked most about that teacher. Their answer can give you an idea about the people they like.
29. What is your favorite childhood memory?
Childhood can be a fun period to recall. Check with your crush if they were naughty or obedient. Ask them if they got into trouble too often or managed to escape punishment. You can even add asking what age or period they would like to relive again.
30. What was your ambition as a child?
When you are already conversing about childhood memories, why not add this question too? Every child has dreams for their adult self. Your crush might feel nostalgic answering your question as they might recall some good memories.
31. What is the most valuable lesson you learned from a mistake?
You can start with this question when you and your crush are in the mood for a deep conversation. Do not judge them for their mistakes, and avoid giving advice. Listen to them; this question can lead to deeper and more meaningful conversations.
32. What’s the most beautiful place you’ve ever been to?
If your crush is a travel enthusiast, they might enjoy answering this question. And if you get to know that they are extremely passionate about traveling, you may even ask them for suggestions and tips on traveling.
33. How do you handle stressful situations?
This question can help you understand how your crush deals with difficult situations. The answer can give you an idea about their personality and nature.
34. If you could be an animal, which one would you like to be and why?
The reason they give for their choice can tell you the qualities they admire in others. These could also be qualities they might wish to imbibe themselves. This can help you better understand your crush.
35. What is your most prized possession?
To better understand your crush, you must know what matters most to them. It can also tell you if your crush is an emotional person or not.
Topics To Talk About With Your Crush Over Text
If you have exchanged numbers, that is a definite plus for you. But you have to keep the chats flowing to keep your crush interested. Texts can be a good way to ask questions that might cause awkwardness when asked directly.
36. What are the things that irritate you?
If you have met your crush a few times and know a bit about each other, you can bring up this topic. Make sure you have valid answers before you broach this subject. It could be something as random as someone breaking the queue at the supermarket or someone honking.
37. Tell me about your hometown
If your crush is from a different place, this topic can get them to open up to you. Every person is fond of their hometown. You can share things about your hometown too and even make plans to visit in the future.
38. What kind of jobs have you worked at?
Many people work right from when they are in high school. The kind of jobs a person does often plays a role in their life. You can tell about their values and temperament from the jobs they have done or aspire to do.
39. Who knows you the best?
The topic can be left for later when you know your crush more intimately. They have to trust you to divulge such details. It might be their family member or best friend. Whoever it is, this revelation can give you the scope to get closer to your crush.
40. What are you passionate about?
Ask your crush what they are passionate about, and if your passions match, you might be able to forge a great partnership that will give you the chance of bonding better.
41. Do you believe in soulmates?
Just when you feel your crush seems relaxed and is in the mood for a deep conversation, you can ask this question seriously. There is a chance they might brush it off. So, the right timing is crucial for this question.
42. Share something your parents do not know
With this question, you can ask your crush to share a piece of intimate information about their life. If they disclose, assume that they consider you one of their close friends they can trust. However, you need to be ready to spill your secrets too.
43. What are your weird habits?
Do you like eating rice with ice cream, or do you knock on the door three times before leaving home? Ask your crush what their weird habits are. Tell them yours, and if they match, you have got another topic in common.
44. What is your biggest pet peeve?
It could be the usage of improper grammar for some or wearing a t-shirt with skirts for others.
45. What was your favorite movie or TV show in childhood?
If you want to bring up some nostalgia to get closer to your crush, asking about their favorite childhood movie or TV show can be the right way to start some great discussions about their childhood. You can share your likes and dislikes with your crush, too.
46. Are there any causes you support?
This question will give you an idea of what they are passionate about and help you get closer to them. You can volunteer to contribute to the cause as well so that they get a chance to admire you. Keep an open mind because they are likely to be very passionate about the cause they support.
47. Which is the best concert you have been to?
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If your crush loves music and has talked about their favorite singers or bands at some point, you can ask them if they have been to concerts and which one has been their favorite. Music often stirs deep emotions in people, and you can get closer to your crush over your shared music experiences.
48. Tell me about your first job
Everyone has a different experience at their first job. These experiences always make for great stories. You can bond well with your crush as they describe their first job and the things they learned.
49. Who do you think are the most overrated and underrated actors?
People usually have strong emotions about movies and actors, especially their favorite ones. Talking about actors is a safe way to talk with your crush and gives you lots of grounds to bond.
50. Do you believe in astrology or zodiac signs?
If your crush responds with an affirmative answer, you can take a compatibility test. If the result is good, you can share it with your crush and tell them how astrology indicates you’ll make a great pair. However, ask this only if you share a great rapport with your crush and they do not mind you flirting with them.
51. Which emoji best describes your personality?
Be ready for a funny response. Your crush might send you an emoji that can crack you up. In return, you can send them another emoji you feel best suits them. They might tease you with an emoji they feel represents you. So, be ready to laugh out loud.
52. What’s the funniest way you’ve ever injured yourself?
If your crush has a funny incident to share, you may have a good time laughing together about it. If not, you can share some funny incidents from your side to keep the conversation going.
53. Have you ever gatecrashed a party?
This question can tell you how adventurous your crush is. It can also tell you if they like to party or not. Ask this question when your crush seems to be in a good mood, and you both can have fun talking about their weird experiences.
54. If you could have a robot friend, what qualities would you like it to have?
This is yet another question that can tell you what your crush admires in other people. Also, ask them what tasks they would like the robot to perform for them. You can suggest some funny tasks to make the topic more interesting.
55. What’s the most courageous thing you’ve ever done in your life?
Give your crush a chance to boast about themselves. Asking them about their courageous feat gives them a chance to feel good. Ensure you ask this question when you feel your crush is losing interest in a conversation.
56. If you could dwell in a fictional world, which would you choose?
Ask what they would do first when they enter the fictional world. Also, how long they would like to live in that world and if they would go alone or take someone with them.
57. If you could invent a new holiday, what would it be, and how would we celebrate it?
If you want to see how creative your crush can be, this question could help you. If they cannot respond, give some ideas and then ask them to add their unique points.
Interesting Topics To Talk About With Your Crush
Several topics can lead to exciting discussions with your crush. Here are some good topics to talk about with your crush so that they start looking forward to talking to you.
58. If you were to have one superpower for a day, what would it be?
The topic can open new fun avenues for discussion with your crush. You can share your plans of becoming a superhero, and you both can discuss various things you can do together.
59. Do you have a secret talent that nobody knows of?
If your crush shares this with you, maybe they like talking to you. Suppose they say they can write poetry, you can ask them to share their pieces with you. This way, you get a pretext to keep talking to them.
60. If you woke up as the opposite sex tomorrow, what would you do?
It is an evergreen topic for discussion that is guaranteed to bring a smile to your crush’s face. Ask this question and learn some interesting viewpoints of the other sex. You can share your opinions too and have an interesting discussion.
61. What music do you like?
Music is a deeply emotional topic of conversation as people feel passionate about the music they listen to. It has the power to bring people from different parts of the world together. Get to know your crush’s preferences and see if your tastes match. Compliment their music taste when they tell you about their favorites with excitement.
62. Which movie do you hate but everyone loves?
If your crush reveals the movie they hate, but everyone loves it, you will have a new topic to discuss. Remember that the movie they mention might be your favorite too, so keep an open mind when discussing it.
63. Which movie do you love but everyone hates?
Some movies do not make the cut with the general audience but have a few followers. Find out which is the movie your crush likes despite its negative ratings and bring your heads together.
64. Which is the trend that you find bizarre?
New trends sprout so often in every field. Ask your crush which trend is overrated or simply bizarre. Is it the ice bucket challenge or the skinny jeans?
65. What kind of movies do you like?
Some might like romantic movies, others might like action movies, while a few might like movies with a solid storyline. Moreover, movies are a safe topic to talk about with your crush, even if you are newly acquainted. You can get some great movie recommendations too.
66. Which is your favorite drink?
If you want a question to transform into a date automatically, you could ask this question. This is one of the most used conversation starters with crush. Based on their answer, you can ask them for a date to a place where you get the drink. And if your drink preferences match, you will have a lot of fun trying out new places.
67. Which book changed your life?
If your crush likes reading books, you can ask them this question. Talking about books is a safe bet for discussion, especially if your crush is a reader.
68. If your pet could name you, what would they pick?
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If you or your crush has pets, you have an excellent topic to discuss with your crush. Ask this question to start an interesting debate on animals. Your crush will bond with you as you share the photos of your pets.
69. What would you do if you were to win the lottery?
It is a great question to ask your crush as it will give you an idea of their priorities. They might want to go shopping or invest the money for the future. Now, it is up to you to think about what you would do if you were to win the lottery as you may have to answer too.
70. What do you admire most in people?
People value different things in others. Kindness, honesty, and loyalty are some of the attributes people value. Ask this question to your crush for some interesting discussions on qualities and why you should value them.
71. Which sport do you wish you played?
Many of us have unfulfilled dreams. Ask your crush which sport they thought they would excel in. Maybe they think they would make a good soccer player or a basketball player. They could even feel they should have taken up an indoor game. If you have similar dreams, you could take up classes together or just talk about them.
72. What’s the best piece of advice you would give to your younger self?
The answer to this question can give you an idea about the valuable life lessons your crush has learned in their life. It can also make them ponder about their life. If they enjoy the topic, they might feel engaged in the conversation.
73. If you could visit another planet, which would you like to visit?
You can ask this question only if you know your crush is well-versed in astronomy. Or at least has some knowledge and interest in the topic. If not, they may not be able to come up with an interesting response or might get bored.
74. If you were an inventor, what would you invent?
This question can give you a better insight into what your crush finds problematic. It can help you understand what annoys your crush and what they want to change about it.
75. What do you do to stay fit?
Fitness is important for everyone. This question can help you understand whether your crush is active or lazy. And if they are fitness freaks, you just hit a goldmine of exciting topics to discuss with your crush.
76. What do you do when you are all alone at home?
If your crush has a good sense of humor, they might come up with a hilarious response. If not, you can add to their answer by asking how often they pick their nose when no one is around them.
77. Which actor would you like to play in a movie about your life?
You can make this topic funny by suggesting a funny actor or common friend to play your crush’s role. In response, your crush might have suggestions for who can play your role in their life. Be prepared for fun banter on this one.
Things To Talk About With Your Crush On The Phone
If you feel you are running out of topics to talk about on the phone and your crush is about to cut the call, you can talk about these topics. These convo starters with a crush will ensure you remain on the line for quite some time.
78. What is your weirdest fear?
While your deepest, darkest fear might be a deep topic to talk about with your crush, you can certainly discuss your weirdest fear. What scares you the most? Spiders? Clowns? Talk about your most irrational fears with your crush and get to know more about them.
79. Share a creepy urban legend that terrifies you.
Share an urban legend with your crush and ask them to share one with you. These stories can be about the ‘Big Foot,’ ‘Bloody Mary,’ or even something you make up. Urban legends can be a fun topic, especially if you know how to create scary stories.
80. Which is the place you always wanted to visit?
Ask your crush where they would want to visit and why. You can share your plans with them and see if your favorite places have any similarities. See if you both have any common places to visit and plan a trip together.
81. Which social media platforms do you like?
You may ask which social media platforms they like spending time on. As an added advantage, you can legitimately ask them if you can follow them on the medium.
82. Who is your favorite superhero?
Many people have extreme views on various superheroes. Some prefer only Marvel heroes, while others prefer DC, and a few might like someone entirely different. Ask your crush who their favorite superhero is, and get ready for an intense debate on why they are better than the others.
83. Do you like this city? How is it different from your city?
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If your crush says they like the city they are in, ask them what aspects they are attracted to the most. Let them tell you how different it is from the place they have come from. If they say they do not like the current city much, you have a chance of showing them what’s the best here.
84. Tell me about your proud moments
It could be the day they graduated or the moment they learned to ride a bike. Ask your crush about their proud moments and share yours too.
85. What is your next big goal?
When your friendship has evolved, you can ask them about their next target in life to know where they plan to go. They might want to study to achieve a higher post or try to get promoted at work. Talking to them about this topic will give you a new perspective on your challenges.
86. What are your dreams?
Your dreams are different from your life goals. While your life goal might be to become the CEO of your company, your dream might be to buy the latest Lamborghini. Discuss your dreams with your crush while asking them theirs. Who knows, your dreams might match, and you may get a chance to know your crush more intimately.
87. What are your thoughts on self-improvement?
You must be ready to broach this topic with your crush because it requires a lot of introspection on your end as well. If you feel you have any flaws, admit them to your crush before asking them about theirs.
88. What type of job do you want to do next?
It is a topic that will keep the conversation flowing for a long time as you and your crush discuss what you are looking forward to in a career.
89. If your pet could talk to you, what would they say first?
If you are looking for a topic that will bring a smile to your crush’s face, this is it. If your crush has a pet, there is no doubt they talk with it. But what if their pet could talk back? It will give some food for thought.
90. Which movie would you like to convert into a musical?
There are musicals and non-musicals. But what if your crush could convert any movie into a musical? How would they like the T-Rex from Jurassic Park grooving to beats while bursting onto the screen?
91. What is the one thing that should be banned?
Whether it is flared jeans or cigarettes, everyone has something they want to ban forever. Ask this question and be ready for some interesting and unpredictable conversations.
92. If you could marry a fictional character, who would it be and why?
Make your crush think hard about their favorite fictional character. If you have any knowledge about that character, it can be a great topic for a conversation.
93. What is one unusual quality you find attractive in your date that other people hardly notice?
This can be an interesting question that might make your crush think long and hard. But it is worth asking as you will also learn what appeals to your crush. You may get to know how observant they are.
94. What makes you fall in love with someone?
This question can be of most interest to you. It can help you understand what your crush looks for in a partner. Remember this question is not for you to change according to their preferences, but to see if you are close to their choice of a partner. It can also make way for other romantic topics you want to discuss.
95. Who is your favorite couple?
Ask them to elaborate on their choice, which can give you an idea about how they perceive relationships. You can also understand what kind of a relationship your crush may want. Whatever it is, you can ask more about the couple to keep your crush engaged.
96. What does a day in your life usually look like?
What to know more about your crush? Then what better question than this one to know them? Ask them about their routine, and if they seem interested in sharing their life with you, ask more. If not, drop the question if they seem too bored to answer.
Fun Things To Talk About With Your Crush
When you hit a roadblock and can’t figure out what things to say to your crush, it’s time to put your sense of humor to good use. Everyone has a funny side, and it is up to you to tap the funny side of your crush. See how funny your discussions can get when you start talking about these topics. Be ready for loads of laughter and bonding.
97. What is the one task that makes you look stupid?
In hindsight, it often seems incredibly funny. If you and your crush are on the verge of cutting the call, pop this question to keep the conversation going and the laughter flowing.
98. What’s the funniest prank you’ve ever pulled off or fallen for?
Start by sharing a prank you fell for or you pulled on someone else and then ask them if they ever managed to do so. If they have successfully pulled a prank on someone, they might feel excited to share their achievement with you.
99. What part of a cartoon scared you most when you were little?
Most cartoons inadvertently include something that might scare children. Ask your crush this question for a nostalgic trip down memory lane.
100. What is the funniest joke you have heard?
Be ready to laugh at the joke even if you have heard the same joke a hundred times before. You can share the funniest jokes you know, and in some time, you will find yourself laughing your heads off.
101. What’s the funniest nickname you’ve ever been called?
Some people don’t like having a nickname. And if your crush is one of them, they might have a funny story. If your crush says they have not been called a nickname, you can tease them about calling them one. Suggest this only if your crush is comfortable with your flirting.
102. What is one piece of useless information you know?
Ask your crush this question, share your pieces of useless information, and have a great laugh on the phone.
103. What is the most bizarre baby name you have heard?
Parents sometimes give the most bizarre names to their children. For example, Elon Musk named his child X Æ A-12. Bring up this topic during a phone call and spend hours dissecting the different names.
104. What are your holiday traditions?
Every family has a unique holiday tradition. Some families go out and celebrate, while others prefer to take a more laid-back approach. Does your family assemble for the big supper? Do you always prepare a full meal? Do you drink red wine or white? Ask these questions to know more about your crush and their family.
105. What helps you relax?
It is music for some, and it is a hot bath for a few. Some prefer to sleep it off, while others might watch movies to relax. If you want to get closer to your crush, ask them what they do to relax. Who knows, in the future, you might help them relax.
106. What do you look for in a partner?
If you have been talking to your crush for quite some time and want to take things forward, you have the chance to assess yourself based on their reply. You could even try making minor changes in your behavior to fit their perceptions.
107. Do you prefer calling or texting?
Every person has a preference for communication. While extroverts prefer talking on the phone even if you message, introverts and ambiverts can go on texting forever but will avoid taking phone calls. Ask your crush this question to know what they think. You can communicate with them in the means they prefer so that they think better of you.
108. What is your favorite pizza topping?
It is a topic that can end up on a pizza date. Just make sure both of you agree on your opinions on pizza. If you do, the next date is set. If not, you can always order one for them and one for you, but pizza toppings often give way to interesting conversations.
109. What’s the weirdest combination of foods you’ve ever tried?
After pizza toppings, you may move on to asking about weird food combinations. If your crush has not tried, you can suggest that you have tried and liked too.
110. Do you believe in ghosts?
Everyone has a friend or a distant cousin who had seen a ghost. But there are no two ways about it. Either you believe in ghosts, or you don’t. Discuss this topic with your crush about why or why not ghosts exist and if you have come across something supernatural. If your views differ, you can try making them see your point of view.
111. If you could have a talking parrot, what phrase would you teach it to say?
Suppose a conversation with your crush is getting too emotional, you can change the topic by asking such a fun and random question. Remember to ask them the reason behind the phrase they have chosen.
112. Have you ever had a hilarious encounter with a salesperson or customer service representative?
Interaction with sales people can be informative but sometimes even hilarious. Ask your crush if they have ever encountered a salesperson who tried to convince them that their product can change a person’s life.
113. What is the most ridiculous item you’ve ever purchased online?
Advertisements can trick anyone into believing that their product is what you need. Ask your crush if they ever fell for an advertisement and purchased something they did not need. Ask them if they ever purchased a particular item and received something entirely different.
114. Have you ever had an embarrassing moment on a messaging app?
Have you ever accidentally sent a funny picture to your boss or teacher? Have you ever posted the wrong message on the wrong group? Do not let your crush feel embarrassed alone. You can also share embarrassing social media moments to keep the conversation light and exciting.
115. What’s the funniest YouTube video you’ve ever seen?
YouTube is replete with funny videos. Your crush may likely have come across videos that crack them up each time they watch it. This question can keep them engaged when you feel your conversation is going nowhere.
116. What is the silliest thing you’ve ever done to impress someone?
Most people have done silly stuff to make someone notice them. Ask your crush if they have ever faked an accent to impress someone. Or you can ask them if they have ever been caught lying by their crush. Don’t judge them for their actions, but do laugh it off saying “everyone does that.”
117. What is the weirdest dream you’ve ever had?
Sometimes dreams can be really weird and absurd. Talking about dreams can be fun because it is not an extremely common topic. A unique topic can keep your crush interested in the conversation.
118. Have you ever had a funny misunderstanding because of language barriers?
If your crush travels abroad frequently or has studied a foreign language, you may ask them this question. And not just a foreign language, they can even misunderstand someone speaking the same language as them. Ask them about a funny encounter that can even cheer them up.
119. If you could have a personal theme song that played whenever you entered a room, what would it be?
Ask your crush to imagine themselves as a character in a show or a movie and tell them to pick a song they would like to play in the background to mark their entry. You can make this topic more interesting by asking your crush to suggest entry songs for your common friends.
120. Have you ever had an embarrassing moment while taking a selfie?
Have people ever stared at you while you posed for a selfie? Have you stumbled or dropped your phone while trying to click a selfie? Most of us do these things, so it’s likely your crush might have also done something silly while trying to get the perfect shot.
121. What’s the silliest song or jingle that you hate listening to, but it always gets stuck in your head?
It is annoying to have a song stuck in your head when you do not like it. And perhaps your crush has experienced it too. You can ask them for ‘tips on how to forget the annoying song’ to keep the conversation going.
122. Have you ever done something in public thinking no one’s looking but ended up attracting people’s attention?
Have you ever laughed out loud in public when you were alone? Have you ever broken into an impromptu dance in public and felt embarrassed? Ask them similar questions that can help maintain a funny conversation.
123. Have you ever had a funny encounter with an animal?
This is a fun question to share a light moment with your crush. If they have a negative response, you can change the question and ask them what they would do if they were stranded on a boat with an animal, just like ‘Life of Pi.’
Good Things To Talk About With Your Crush
There are some feel-good topics and questions to ask your crush that will make them feel better talking to you. If they have had a bad day, you can talk with them about these topics to improve their mood.
124. Which is your favorite tattoo?
If your crush has multiple tattoos, you can talk about them. They will love describing their experience of getting a tattoo, and if you don’t have any, you can ask them any number of questions about the pain and the healing process.
125. Which is your least favorite tattoo?
Raise this topic with your crush if you are sure they will not shut down. Many people have a least favorite tattoo. It may be something that reminds them of someone else, a tattoo that they got during an event they were blind drunk, or something that they got done from a friend on an experimental basis and isn’t happy with how it turned out.
126. What is your unrealistic dream job?
Talk to your crush about their dream job — it could be as silly as sleeping all day. If they are a reader, they might want a job that pays for reading books. If they are travelers, they might be looking for a job that allows them to travel free of cost. Share more and more unrealistic dream jobs and laugh your hearts out.
127. Which fandom do you follow?
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It might get pretty intense, especially if you both do not follow similar fandoms. Keep the conversation light and discuss what they like about a particular fandom and tell them about yours. But on the flip side, if your fandoms match, it is like finding a long-lost twin.
128. What is your guilty pleasure?
Is watching reruns on Friends your crush’s guilty pleasure? Is eating a whole bar of chocolate your guilty pleasure? Admit these to each other and feel the distance getting close between you two.
129. What is the topic you know about most?
For all you know, your crush might be a space nerd. But how will you know if you won’t ask? It is a feel-good topic that will leave your crush feeling happy because someone voluntarily asked about their favorite topics and then listened to them.
130. What puts you off on a date?
While the common ones are always valid (often looking at the phone, talking rudely to waitstaff), some things are specific to different people. For example, some people cannot bear it if their date is wearing a loud perfume or doesn’t pick them up from home.
Discussing this in the crush stage will make sure you don’t go ahead with any misconceptions.
131. How did you feel about high school?
Did you enjoy high school and are still in touch with your friends? Or couldn’t you wait to get out of there and good riddance? Everyone has a different experience at school. Talk to your crush about their experiences, and you can get a new perspective on school life, even if you were in the same school.
132. How do you feel about your parents’ relationship?
If you feel your crush is comfortable talking about their family, you can ask them this question. You can ask what they have learned from their parents’ marriage. If they are separated, you can ask how they handled the separation.
133. What is your parent’s love story?
Sharing a parents’ love story can be a unique experience because not many people ask such a question. If your crush seems happy to share their story with you, you can ask them questions to keep the conversation going.
134. How important is family to you?
If you are considering your crush for a serious and long-lasting relationship, you may ask them this question. It will give you an idea about how they perceive relationships and if they are interested in having a family.
135. If you could be someone else for a day, who would it be?
It can be someone popular or someone who has influenced many lives with their good work. Ask your crush who they would like to be and why. It will give you a good insight into your crush‘s life.
136. What is on your bucket list?
If your crush has admitted having a bucket list, ask them to share as many details as they feel comfortable. If your crush doesn’t have a bucket list, try making one each with them —a sort of buddy project. As you add items to your bucket list, you will know unknown aspects of your crush’s character.
137. What has been the worst year of your life until now?
This topic calls for some serious discussion, so you need to be ready to devote the time. After this discussion, you are sure to be closer to your crush.
138. What is one thing you’re looking forward to in the near future?
Are you looking forward to getting married? Are you excited to become a parent someday? What does your crush want for their future self? This question can make them think hard and even get them excited.
139. What is one thing you love about yourself or your life right now?
If your crush does not have an answer to this, you can tell them what you like most about them. Let them blush as you praise their positive attributes. This can even pave the way for more topics to talk about.
140. Tell me about the last time you did something good for a stranger.
If your crush has an answer to this question, they will most likely be selfless. You can praise them for being kind to others. However, do not go overboard with the praise, as it may not look genuine or heartfelt.
141. What’s a small gesture of kindness that someone did for you and it helped you tremendously?
If a person does not forget acts of kindness, it means they are grateful for the positive things in life. Recalling an act of kindness can lift your crush’s spirit and help them feel happy by recalling some good memories.
142. What’s something you’ve always wanted to learn or explore but have not got the chance?
Most of us make plans about something and often put it off for the future. Your crush, too, might have made plans about learning a skill or pursuing a hobby but may not have worked on it. If you can help them with this, you can earn some brownie points.
143. Who is your dream date?
Ask your crush about their dream date, and if they are comfortable, you can even tease them. You may also share your dream date so you’ll tease each other about it.
144. What is the best gift you have ever received?
Tell your crush the gift can be from anyone. Also, ask them what is so special about the gift that they like so much. This will help you understand the kind of things that matter most to your crush.
145. What’s your definition of a perfect day?
Most of us have a certain idea of a day that qualifies as ‘perfect.’ Your crush’s answer to it can give you an idea of how they like to spend their free time. It can also tell you what makes your crush happy.
146. If you could meet anyone from history, who would it be and why?
Ask this question to know the kind of personality your crush admires. Suppose they cannot think of a name, you can give them options. For instance, you can ask them ‘What would you say to Albert Einstein if you ever met him?’ Their spontaneous answers can lead to a funny conversation.
147. If you could learn any new language instantly, which one would you choose?
Also ask them the reason behind their choice. Whatever is their choice, it can lead to more topics to talk about. You can discuss the region the language belongs to, and even ask them if they would like to visit that place.
148. If you were a vegetable, which one would you be, and why?
The point behind this question is to make your crush feel light and distract them from anything that is bothering them. Also, their response can tell you a lot about their sense of humor.
149. Which is the first movie you saw in a theater?
This can bring some happy memories back to your crush’s mind. You can share your own theater experience to have a happy conversation.
150. What’s something that excites you the most?
Tell them it can be anything from a song to an activity or even a food item. It should be something that can easily distract them and lift their mood.
Frequently Asked Questions
1. Can I tease my crush?
Teasing can be a fun and lighthearted way to communicate and flirt with someone, including a crush. However, ensuring that the teasing is pleasant and does not transcend the line into being nasty or hurtful is critical. It’s advisable to stop if the other person appears uncomfortable or upset. Also, remember that what you may view as innocent teasing may not be how the other person sees it. So, communicate with your crush and make sure you’re both comfortable with the teasing.
2. How long can my crush on someone last?
There’s no set time for how long a crush can last. It varies from person to person and can depend on various factors, such as the intensity of the feelings, the situation, and your personality. Some crushes may last just a few days or weeks, while others can persist for months or even years.
3. What are some sensitive topics to avoid when talking to my crush?
While getting to know your crush or if you are on a date, avoid topics like past relationships, flings, family matters, religion, and political views. Refrain from asking them questions that put them on the spot, like why they take time to reply or if they like you more than others. If you know topics that upset them, don’t broach them.
4. How can I show my personality and be myself during a conversation with my crush?
The best way to show your personality is by being your true self. You can let your personality shine by being confident, practicing active listening, sharing your passions, being respectful and making funny jokes, and not opting for crude humor.
5. What questions make a girl blush?
You may ask her questions with a dash of compliments, you can also add funny questions to make her laugh, and you can get to learn more about her with ‘Would you rather’ or ‘Truth or Dare’ questions. Always approach someone with respect and consider her boundaries. Remember, you should make her blush out of shyness, not embarrassment.
6. How do I give my crush butterflies?
You can give your crush butterflies by showing genuine interest in them, showering them with compliments, and expressing your feelings through heart-touching gestures. Show them kindness and attention, and always be supportive when they need you to be. Nothing makes your crush happier than the fact that someone genuinely loves and cares for them.
You might be a chatty person in general, but there is usually a loss of words when you are in front of your crush. You need some interesting things to talk about with your crush to take the conversation forward. With these tips, you can start talking to them with more confidence, and they will surely notice you. Be your authentic self and engage with your crush’s answers for a successful conversation. These are conversation starters, and you can also include some personal questions of your own that will help you know each other better and forge a deeper connection. You will overcome the awkwardness eventually and get to the part where you exchange phone numbers or even get invited for an outing. So, be confident and be yourself.
Infographic: Ways To Make Conversations With Your Crush Exciting
They give you butterflies in your tummy, and you get stumped when they make eye contact, making you quiet and awestruck. Fret not, as we give you some intriguing topics to get the conversation started and keep it going with your crush in the infographic below. Illustration: Momjunction Design Team
Key Pointers
- Having a healthy conversation is the way to start a relationship with your crush.
- Initiate a conversation with “Get To Know You” things, like what are your hobbies?
- As you overcome the awkwardness, talk fun, feel-good topics that keep them interested in talking to you.
Learn how to start interesting conversations and create a deeper connection with someone you adore.
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