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My parents probably did the best they could while raising my sibling and me. It might not have always been the right approach, but they did what they thought was right, and I cannot blame them for it. The rules that govern raising kids are regressive and toxic that might be detrimental to a child’s holistic growth. Because the society we live in fails to treat kids as human beings. My parents probably didn’t know better and did not realize how harmful some of their rules were to my well-being. Or maybe they did not want to fight against society’s norms and let things be as is. However, things are different now, and it’s time we put a stop to untoward upbringing and properly raise kids. Here are 13 things I will teach my kids despite what I was taught as a kid:
1. The Rules Of Respect
What I Was Taught As A Kid:
Respect everyone older than you. They deserve respect because they are years ahead of you.
What I Will Teach My Kids:
Respect is a two-way street. It is earned and not demanded or determined by age.
2. The Invitation List
What I Was Taught As A Kid:
You have to invite them for the wedding because they invited us. “It doesn’t look nice if we don’t.”
What I Will Teach My Kids:
Invite them if you really want them to be present with you on your special day. Have a wedding that you can afford, and not one that you’re “supposed” to.
3. The Sincere Apology
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What I Was Taught As A Kid:
Apologize to adults even when they are wrong, and you’re not.
What I Will Teach My Kids:
Only apologize when you’re wrong.
4. The Generation Gap
What I Was Taught As A Kid:
Parents know what’s best for you. Always. Listen to them.
What I Will Teach My Kids:
Our experiences are different because we are from another generation. So, we might not always know what’s right for you, but we still have your best interests at heart.
5. Bad Habits ≠ Bad People
What I Was Taught As A Kid:
People who smoke and drink are bad.
What I Will Teach My Kids:
Smoking and drinking are bad for you, but that doesn’t translate into a person’s character. It does not automatically make them bad people.
6. The Post Marriage Rules
What I Was Taught As A Kid:
You can do it after you’re married if your husband allows you to.
What I Will Teach My Kids:
There is no reason to seek your husband’s permission.
7. The “Suitable” Hobby
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What I Was Taught As A Kid:
Your hobbies are more suitable for a girl/boy.
What I Will Teach My Kids:
Hobbies are not gendered. Do what makes you happy and follow your heart.
8. The Parent Trap
What I Was Taught As A Kid:
Please have kids so I can become a grandparent. I don’t know how many years I have left in this world and I’d like to see my grandchildren.
What I Will Teach My Kids:
Parenthood is a choice, not an obligation. Have a child when you are ready and don’t be emotionally blackmailed into making that decision.
9. Mental Health Awareness
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What I Was Taught As A Kid:
There is no such thing as mental health. Eat well and sleep well; you’ll be fine.
What I Will Teach My Kids:
Mental health is just as important as physical health. You can always come to me if you need someone to listen to you, and don’t hesitate to ask for help.
10. All Kinds Of Help
What I Was Taught As A Kid:
Therapy is only for people who are “crazy”.
What I Will Teach My Kids:
If you need professional help, I’d be happy to help you get it.
11. The Greeting Rule
What I Was Taught As A Kid:
Greet our relatives with a hug, even if you don’t like it.
What I Will Teach My Kids:
If you’re uncomfortable with hugging a relative, don’t. Set clear boundaries with them. It’s more vital that you feel safe than to be polite.
12. The Skill Of Cooking
What I Was Taught As A Kid:
No one will marry you if you don’t learn how to cook.
What I Will Teach My Kids:
Learn to cook because it’s a life skill.
13. Privacy Is Key
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What I Was Taught As A Kid:
You are not allowed to lock your door. Always keep your room door open.
What I Will Teach My Kids:
I understand your need for privacy as you grow older, and I will respect it.
It might not be easy for parents to change their thinking and change how they raise their kids. But bringing up your kids in a way that could be harmful for their well-being should be avoided. Do you agree with this article? Comment below and let us know what you think.
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